Ever been taken advantage of?

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I posted a topic similar to this on the Parent board but that's to understand children and that issue I thought I'd ask here about it aswell. Have you ever been taken advantage of?

1) Some students told me say Bench 3x's fast to the teacher BTW sounds like b***h the teacher took my wrist and took me to the principals office those students were snickering/laughing.

2) A College Professor upset me instead of calming me a friend said *insert violence here* I said ya we both LOL! then he told the teacher/school then suspended for a year (NOW just going back after 5 years!! !)


I hate I've been taken advantage of like this!! !! Has any other Aspies been taken advantage of? and how do I avoid it in the future?

Most people, Aspies and NTs, are taken advantage of at one point in their lives whether it's in a big way or a small way. I know I have been on many occasions, usually had to do with my lack of being able to say no, so I do almost anything (reasonable) that someone asks me, like "can you do my HW for me, can you help me with this, can you work overtime this week?) etc. which I consider in a way sorta taking advantage of me. Lending pencils to people, not getting them back. You know, stuff like that. I never really had anything big happen, though that I can recall.

Probably most people on the spectrum have been taken advantage of to some degree.

Most notably on school projects. People know I'm studious and a hard-worker so the slacker knows I'll pick up their slack and they'll usually get away with it. I once even made it clear the student had done next to nothing through those evaluation forms you often get for groupwork and of course he had no repercussions whatsoever.

Hundreds of times, I was always the 'odd' guy who got picked on from sheets of newspaper in the sandwiches to porn images on the desktop of my PC. Fight them and it gets worse so I just sucked it up and went on with life.

Vanilla_Slice

I've got taken advantage, a lot of times. I've been asked personal questions, and told to do silly things, at my first job.

I think I dodged a lot of that crap. My family were all pretty cynical and reserved so I grew up with a healthy distrust of strangers and a Machiavellian view of the motives of people in general.

When I was a fairly young teenager, a girl seemed to take a fancy to me, and she asked me to meet her....she took me to this pub and these other guys in suits, who she seemed to know, came up and laughed at me. One of them grabbed hold of her (she didn't seem to mind). I took hold of her other arm and pulled gently but firmly, saying "is this the Gentleman's Excuse Me or can anybody join in?" Next thing I knew I found myself waking up on the pavement with a headache, ambulance guys talking on radios - I thought they were police about to bust me for under-age drinking but I was too groggy to run away. They kept me in hospital under observation for a couple of days but all was well so they let me go. I presume the guy must have socked me one and they'd all run off.

I guess the girl had been up to no good - probably used me to impress the other guy, or maybe she just enjoyed stirring up trouble. I wanted to get my revenge on the violent guy, but apart from that I felt I'd not had such a bad deal - at least I got a snog out of it, which was a very rare treat in those days. I wasn't exactly heartbroken either.....it was purely a physical thing and I'd already sussed that she wasn't quite the wholesome type I was really looking for. So in a way I got what I deserved for succumbing to lust, though I was very young.

Apart from that, there was a bit of bullying here and there, but nothing out of the ordinary for a guy who wasn't really into aggression. A guy got me drunk at a party once by handing me a pint of port.

So I guess the distrust of people paid off, though of course I've lost out on a lot because of the "nothing ventured, nothing gained" thing.......I really went too far with the distrusting. I'm better than I used to be but I still play it very safe.

i tend to be taken advantage of quite often. sarcasm is lost on me, and i tend to believe what people tell me until they form a pattern of confirmed lies, which leads people to ask for "loans" and favors that are never repaid. i have found that a lot of people are suddenly my "friend" when they need or want something that i have. i can hardly blame them, as it seems that i am such an easy target.

I trust people too easily and I'm often too honest for my own good. What about you OP does your honesty get you into s**t spots?

Ah yes I'm very honest I lay all the cards on the table! I need to stop getting SUPER personal. There is probably some things that I've said that I shouldn't have. I need to keep my views to myself more.

Yes, I wasn't aware of it though. After I was made aware I continued to allow it to happen unless it got in my way or anything. I had a friend who had me ride with her to hang out with these people and then later at night she would ride with me to my house and spend the night. Doesn't sound bad, right? She would get drunk and use drugs at their house and I was always able to drive because I never drank or anything. She wasn't allowed to stay out late, so since she was staying with me her parents didn't know how late she was out. It wasn't (always) hurting me or anything, but still taking advantage.

Yes, definitely! I've learned to be stingy and untrusting. I used to be the exact opposite and would give people who were friendly toward me all my stuff, take them to Taco Bell or Taco Bueno and buy them food, drive them places in my car when they didn't have a license. All this just to have a friend. It was like I felt unworthy and compensated in this horrible way. I compromised my own dignity. Not any more! From now on, it's mutuality or it's nothing.

Bench 3 times fast for me in binch. Sounds nothing like THAT word.

Anyway, I have been taken advantage of. It sucks, but we gotta' endure.