Help with parents

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I'm not good at getting my feelings and emtions out. I never have been and never will be. But seeing as how yes I do have aspergers how do I get my parents to see the world through my eyes. When ever I try to talk with my mom about how I'm feeling in a really poor why she keeps saying well ever one is like that.

I'm trying to get her to enter my world. I look back and half the stuff I was doing did becasue I was putting on any act. Ever time I went and got a shirt from Abercrombie & Fitch or whatever I was not doing it becasue I liked them I did it becasue I wanted to be like them. I knew and have always know I was different.

I once had roller blades. I did not want them becasue I liked them I got them becasue I wanted ever one to like me and I wanted to fit in. When really I hated it. Ever one else had grown out of playing in the sandbox. I had not grown out of that. In fact I was just fine and happy playing in the sandbox while ever one else was fun doing whatever.

So how do I get her and my dad to see what I'm saying and see the world from my eyes not theres.

You may never be able to. I've tried and tried with my mom, and I still can't get her to see. She's undiagnosed but pretty obviously autistic herself; and still she says I must be "normal", or just have some problems with discipline and behavior, or just need a good man...

A lot of teens do feel like they are the only ones in the world going through what they're going through; and maybe your parents figure this is like that. Aspie teens do get that same fallacy; but the fact remains that while most people aren't autistic, AS is a common issue and you are one of many and not alone at all.

You're probably going to need to figure out what you need by yourself, and ask for it. Depending on how good you are at self-evaluation, you may be able to spot gaps in your array of skills and ask specifically for help with those things. That way you can sneak past the prejudice; many parents are scared to death of "labels", for no good reason, but don't mind arranging for a child to learn things they admit they are bad at, because to them that doesn't connect with the concept of disability near as much as it ought to.

That was what I was afeard of hearing.

I'm 29 and know just getting it all worked out and really knowing me. Now that I'm starting to know me I want my family to know me and not the person who just get's up ever day and wears a damn mask all the time. I don't want to do it any more after 24 years of the hell and the trying to fit in and be like ever one else when I knew I was not I just can not and do not want to do that any more.

When I was little, I loved playing with legos and building games. My mother insisted on buying me dolls, which I hated. Now, that I'm a teen, the only reason I go with her to the mall is to make an effort and see her smile for once at me, because at everything else she frowns. I really hate it, and I'm always carrying my iPod around, which kind of makes her frown again. I really feel out of place at home, at school, and everywhere. Specially when my parents are comparing me to my brother who enjoys loud music, and when I ask him to turn down the volume, they get mad at me telling me that just because he's happy and I'm not, doesn't mean that I should try to make him sad. It's not that, it's that the volume hurts my ears, as well as his singing!

Quote: I'm not good at getting my feelings and emtions out. I never have been and never will be.

That's me. However, when my anger gets out of control, I can't control myself, and classmates who are annoying are constantly telling me, "hitting isn't a good form of answering back"...

I guess the one major thing about it for me is that if I can't get them to just see the world through my eyes I fear for my Niece. She may only be 1 year old but I fear that if she will end up having something that I have such as ADD, or ADHD, or asperger. I don't want to be the only one in the family that gets her.

I can't do that alone when I'm still trying to work on myself. I need my parents and my sister and brother-in-law to see my world so that they can also help her.