I will not pretend, to fit in.

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I will not pretend to be like my same age, same gendered peers, in order to fit in, just to be miserable. I will not grow my hair and wear it up. I will not wear the sexy tops that they make and sell, for women, these days. I will not pluck my eyebrows and wear make-up. I will not watch American Idol and I will not listen to Top 40. I will not squeal about bare chested men, with big muscles, either. I certainly will not tell dirty jokes, either. I know who I am.

Does anybody else feel that fitting in, is overrated?

yes

I have no wish to ever fit in again

I feel it's a double edged sword, you can fit in and have an easier time with society or you can say "sod this" and go your own way but have a harder time with society. I don't think there's any "right" or "wrong" way to go but I personally prefer the harder road, it keeps you on your toes and you have lots more valuable experiences.

You do fit in, Cockyrebel. With us!

they do a pretty good job of selling us the notion that to be happy, we must be like them. Only, most of them are not happy just because they "fit in," so why should we aspire to be like them?

yes it is over rated, i was never into it.

I have been on my toes for years and yes I learned a lot. But I lost way more...

Hi Cockney,

I don't know whether fitting in is over rated or not. I don't rate it.

I do know that I don't give a s**t ABOUT fitting in and I do know that (for me) fitting in is something for which the 'reward' is simply NOT worth the anxiety.

I will admit to sometimes squealing (silently) when I see a woman that I consider to be beautiful (especially if she happens to be/look Asian) but this doesn't cause me any anxiety and doesn't require a 'group' of 'friends' for me to participate

Ditto!

If I was given the choice between having 40 friends who are into what their peers are into, and every Kinks record, ever made, between 1964 and 1984, I'd be more than happy to choose the records.

Thank you.

*hug*

Now stop being down. We shall have an aspie party!

I mostly agree with Cockney Rebel.......I find it refreshing to hear from people who are prepared to do what THEY think is right rather than what "society" thinks is right. And if you look carefully at this great homogenous force of like-minded people who expect everybody to do the done thing, you may have trouble demonstrating that it exists. A lot of the illusion is down to advertisers who are desperate to convince us that we're nothing without the latest mainstream fashion accessories and attitudes. It's reassuring to know that when I don't toe the party line, there are people out there who have no problem with that.

Let's celebrate, everybody!

I think it depends on circumstances. If you want to work then you have to somehow 'fit in' to the environment they set up. If you want to get along with your family you have to 'fit in' on some level with them. You don't have to be a part of the phony social BS.

As I mentioned in another post; it took me many years (50+) to gain the skills to be able to fit in, even though its on a pretty shallow level, but its the best I can do. Before that was jail, commitment, being so drugged I couldn't walk, living on the street. I didn't 'fit in' at any of their levels so they didn't want me around. I learned to wear the mask to be acceptable to them so I could be safe.

I'm still who I am and wouldn't change that but I have learned to adapt to their world. And it is THEIR world, not mine, I'm just passing through; but I'd like a comfortable and safe trip so I throw them a few bones to make them happy.

I mentally cannot be anyone other than me cuz it causes me pain otherwise. I spent a long time hiding being gay and that was enough, Luckiliy I have never felt the desire to be like everyone else. I've always loved being different, even if it left me feeling like an outsider.