Is it just me or are NT's mean?

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My friends boyfriend on FB posted he worked for "his womans dad" I took this as offensive and would never like to be called "your woman!" Just now her boyfriend posted no electricity at work. My friend asked what are you doing on the phone you slacker lol (Yes lol=probably joking) but IMO I find it mean and harsh and rude etc. to call her boyfriend a slacker! Surely her boyfriend works hard! (never met him I assume he's a nice guy) but from seeing HIS post the other day and now hers towards him is it just me or are NT's mean to each other?! I hope I never treat my boyfriend etc. how I've seen people I know being treated. What do you think are NT's mean?

They're teasing each other. I understand that if the words are taken literally then they don't paint a nice picture but they sound like they are engaging in affectionate teasing.

When it's hard to pick up tone meaning it can seem that NT's are mean but they can easily just be joking (and to them they have no idea that some people have difficulty seeing the difference).

It's friendly, and they don't take it personally. I understand how it's confusing though.

Lol, my mum was looking at my brother's facebook page the other day and one of his friends had left a comment that, if taken literally would have been quite cruel. I had to patiently explain to her that it was ok, it was just a joke

i'm not a nt but my boyfriend claims to be and we all ways going at it joking with each other a matter a fact thats how we fail in love with each other and started dating, for 2 years every day we fuss in the morning before school about rather or not God is real. i know is dumb to fuss about stuff like that but in the in we love each other. now me in him fuss about kids with special needs vs nt kids. so i say in that matter no thats not really mean its playing.

but some times people are just mean to certain kinds for no reason
i know i'm guilty for saying mean things about nt's. based on me being different
i think they hate me then i just say mean things. i try to control it though

A lot of NT are mean. what I have seen is if a NT does not know someone who is ASD then they dont care if you are or not. meaning they will make fun of you for it.

My grandpa never gave me or my family any real attention till he had a kid who is highly ASD. not he is starting to see my family in a new light.

I think they're just teasing.

Sometimes people just want to connect but don't really have anything to say. They don't want to be mushy so they tease each other. That kind of banter can often be a way to just let the other person know you're thinking about them. It's weird, but common.

Also, NTs sometimes ARE mean.

Like, really mean.

I don't think you can generalize. If you think it's mean, it's mean.

(NT here.)

You'd find a lot of NT's actually make a lot of jokes like that which we tend to not understand.
But I won't say NT's are mean, its just how they can entertain themselves basically.

Oh. Interesting of course these "joke comments" go right over my head. The boyfriend mention the electricity being out and (me being literal resonded with) Well I assume without electricity more than likely can't do much work. I'd think. (Ya obviously literal) but it's the truth! LOL!

Not anymore than they think we are mean, I'm sure

NT doesn't equal mean. I know plenty of NTs who are very kind people. Nevermind that I've seen some pretty mean things said by those who are not NT. It's a supposition that doesn't stand up to some basic logic.

I think the couple you're talking about are just flirting with one another.

They are just teasing and flirting, as the others said.

I use a lot of sarcasm and dry humor a lot more so than they are doing, and it's hard for anyone (NT or not) to pick up on since I don't make many expressions.

They are just teasing and flirting, as the others said.

I use a lot of sarcasm and dry humor a lot more so than they are doing, and it's hard for anyone (NT or not) to pick up on since I don't make many expressions.

Let's not overgeneralize. NTs just like to tease each other that way, and understandably many people on the autism spectrum get the impression that they're not teasing and are, in fact, being rude to one another.

Nope. I suspect most of the Catholic saints were not 100% NT themselves. Of all the people who were nice and accepting of me and my AS, they were not "all there" themselves. I suppose there are a few good NT's by they are a minority. Most NT's are downright evil.