Sad and frustrated...

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A couple weeks ago I figured out I may have Aspergers. I was just going to go to the dr and get referred and get a diagnosis of whatever it is I have by myself without telling anyone. I am married and my husband "tries" to understand things but he just doesn't. To him I over react about everything and everytime I try to tell him how I feel he takes it all the wrong way or I just don't express myself right and I always end up feeling like a moron and feeling like he totally thinks I'm just a drama queen.
So I end up telling him. I ask him for his support and his belief that I truly think something is wrong with me. He says ok and seems quite supportive.
Today I was telling him a little bit about how I feel things and try to explain a few things to him about me that I have been realizing lately. He says "it's ok, we'll figure it out and get through it". Yay, relief! Maybe this time he really will understand me.

WRONG!! !!

Later in the afternoon I got upset about something that he knows I feel strongly about but he doesn't. He tells me he's not going to my family's get together now because "he doesn't feel like it". I KNOW he's pissed at me. I lost it. He basically just LIED to me about being supportive. We ended up having a MASSIVE fight which we rarely ever do and now here I am at a freaking hotel because I just can't go back and face him after he lied like that to me. He is pretty much blaming it all on me as usual that this has happened.

WTF? I open up to him and share my feelings and ask for his support and just hours later he craps all over me after convincing me that he'd be there for me. I'm devasted.

Does anyone else's spouse/gf/bf do this too? How do you deal with it? I think he's just put up with my crap for so long now that he just can't do it anymore. I thought he would be HAPPY and relieved that I might know what is wrong with me and there's an actual REASON for it but it seems like it's freaking him out or something. I don't know.

My ex husband was like that with me. Unfortunately some people just can't grasp the problems we have because it's not a disorder that they can see, not "physical."

Hm I would think that you would be more understanding about not wanting to be forced to go to a social event. Maybe he's tired. You know him better, maybe he was mad. It's also very possible that you're reading too much into it. What if he literally "doesn't feel like it"? He could be stressed or just not in the mood to interact with in-laws...You can hardly blame him for that..


That can't be fun