What course of action could i take?

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Here is the situation i am in at the moment

I am 21
my younger brother is 18
he is threatening to use extreeme violence against me over something i have done involving my parents (refer to my older threads in january this year on general autisim discussion)
my brother is stronger than me and does kickboxing and goes to the gym as a means to control me and bully me
he a few inches taller than me
living with my parents and brother under the same roof
i have aspergers syndrome so at the moment so i am not that independant.
ont the bright side my behaviour has gotten quite a lot better in the last few weeks but still my brother is giving me hard time over what i have done to the family
i only behave badly because i am repetitive and living with AS can be very hard.
when i worked out at the gym and built muscle my brother did not stand up to me because i was just as strong if not more than him
both of us are unemployed so he is most of the time in the house during the daytime so i get no escape from him. i am trying to get a job but it is really HARD and my brother is just generally lazy and is unwilling to work. he also milks my parents dry of money just to suppourt his lifestyle.
repetitive behaviour from my brother when ever i ecounter him. he can be very affectionate towards me but after a while its get really tedious him saying the same things to me and behaving a certain way EVERY DAY

I am scared for me safety because and i fear that i may be the victim of a very BAD assult from him in the next few months or even in the next few years. You can see why i am concerned becasue i do not want there to be any fatal consequences of this. Sad really because i remember 4 years ago me and my brother were still having the same conflicts. Not much has changed Its like an ongoing saga mainly caused by me.

is thier anything i can do about this involving the law? my parents did buy me my own flat but i am not very independant

I personally think my brother should get his own place. Also i am not looking for sympathy just advice on what i can do becasue if my parents get ill my brother said "If either mum or dad get ill i will have your head"

Do you perhaps have a friend or relative who 'gets' you that might share the flat with you? Perhaps help you become more independant?
Are there any particular aspects of independance you have difficulty with? Taking care of yourself? Or is it more a confidence issue?
Perhaps there is some sort of support group or carer service in your area whom you could contact for assistance...

Are your parents supportive? Have you tried asking them for help to find help with learning independance? If they have purchased a flat for you then in theory they must believe you are capable of independance...

My parents are not helpful and they just say "We have no idea how to help you be independant.

As for taking care of myself its more a confidence issue. i think they belive i am independant but to be honest i really do like my parents house, that and i feel inside that i am not completely capable of living by myself and doing all the chores esspecially since i am unemployed.

I think my parents should pay with thier own money to get my brother his own small apartment since i belive he is more capable of living by himself than i am.

Do you have ANY contact with social services or mental health services? A REAL threat of harm can be acted on by these services. If you are not in a program of some sort then why not? If you can't live independently, then you should be in a program where you can learn life skills. If you can't learn enough life skills and the physical threat from your brother is real (not just trash talk) then social services can maybe put you into a group home.

Have you tried apologizing to your family? Maybe your brother is still hassling you about it because he thinks you're not sorry for what you did.

Yeah I said i was sorry but i don't think my brother belived that i actually meant it.

my brother has got that kind of menacing predatory personality not disimilar to a pyscopath. and trust me even if i do apologise to my family its still too late if my mum or farther gets ill he will KILL ME!! !! !! !! !!

hmmm you have your own flat, your brother doesnt. you prefer to stay at home, and you want your brother to live outside the house....

see where i am going with that? why not see if your brother wants to live in your flat?

i suggested the idea to my parents but they said he was "Too young" even though he is 19 in June.

my dad also said to me tonight that "He does not care what we do to each other"