Dealing with autism and the problems it causes.

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I'm having trouble finding a job due to my not having a hsd, autism, and anxiety. In case you're wondering why I drop out it's because I just couldn't handle it. I guess I'm weak. I couldn't handle the stares, the laughs, and the insults. I'm working hard to get my G.E.D but it's hard because I have insomnia and a learning disability. I still live at home with my mom and it's pathetic. Sometimes I wonder where I will be 5 years from now and I see myself a homeless man out on the streets begging for change on street conors and eating food out of trash cans. My mother is the only person keeping me from that fate. But she can barley feed me and my 3 brothers. She smokes a lot and is getting sick and I don't think she'll be around much longer. I can't even go outside because I'm too afraid. I don't have any friends or a girlfriend and I'm still a virgin. I feel like a prisoner in my own house. Why is this happening to me? Is this hell? Did I do something so wrong in a past life and this is my punishment? I just don't know what to do. I guess the most important thing right now is getting a job first then working on my other issues but, the only job that I would qualify for is working at a fast food restaurant. But, that's out of the question because I'm unable to interact with people or be around a lot of people. I think the job interview will be pure ungodly wicked torture. Maybe someone here can help me out with some of my problems. I just wish I could look and act normal like everybody else and not have everyone thinking I'm ret*d. Do losers like me even have a chance of meeting a nice girl? My loneliness is kiling me. If I don't get help I think I may..... well, I just hope god can forgive for what I may do.

Hello Lonelyman,

First lets deal with the 2 issues of not having a high school diploma and self-sufficency.

For the diploma, if you are under 21, you are covered under IDEA and the local school district is REQUIRED to give you an education until your 21st birthday (although some districts will educate you until the end of the school year when you turn 21). If you are older than 21, most community colleges offer GED classes and are required to accomidate you on the basis of the ADA.

As for the self-sufficency stuff, I would suggest getting into contact with your counties social services agency. They should be able to assist you in obtaining medical care, financial assistance (including possibly SSI), housing assistance (although there is usually a huge waiting list), and educational assistance. They can also help you plan for the day when your mother is not around.

You will however need to go outside to do any of this stuff. I do not think social services can come to you. As far as your mother having any say, unless she drew up papers of guardianship on you, if you are 18 or older, you are technically your own person and can make your own decisions.

I do not want to see you ending up homeless or killing yourself. There is help.

Hellow Loneyman
You are not alone

I did a diploma in Graphic Design about 30 years ago and ever since I can only obtain stop start casual work. I live with my mom too be she is happy to keep me home because she is only partially sighted and she cannot possibly drive and she needs someone to chauffeur her around every where as she likes to get around a lot. She leans on me very heavily for that service, especially when we were living out in the sticks for 14 years. I am happy to do that because it gives me a real purpose in life. I could have been NT and flown the nest and gotten married in my early 20 and she would be totally stranded..

I did not realize I was diagnosed as autistic when I was only 8. When it was brought to my attention recently and it explained everything about my life. The bullying at school, the social anxiety, teeth grinding bad posture, head banging trantrums and poor motor skills. I realize now I am not such a freak. If only was only aware of this when I was much younger, as I have unfortuneately fallen through the cracks. I is not too late for you.

Paul