Acting more disabled than you already are

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I was just wondering, does anyone here pretend/exaggerate another disability, in order to cover up the difficulties they experience with AS?

For example, occasionally, I will use my hearing loss, as an excuse for not understanding some instructions, but it was really my AS that caused the misunderstanding. This helps me avoid the embarrassment of not understanding things, and people are always more accommodating to a hearing loss, than something so mysterious as AS. I don't do this all the time, just sometimes, according to the situation.

I know it's probably not completely ethical or whatever, but sometimes, we all need to do what we need to do to get along a little better in the world.

Can't say that I do.

I try to blend in in all ways, which means I put a lot of effort into acting better than I actually am.

I've pretended to be distracted by loud noises to cover up a panic attack. Does that count?

No, I don't — instead of blaming a specific diagnosis, I'd rather work with overcoming that certain difficulty — as long it's physically possible, of course.

Some times I use my hearing loss to get people to repeat something to me even though they said it loud enough the first time.

no, i just blame my asperger's. whenever i embarrass myself around people i just admit i have AS so they won't jump to the conclusion that i'm totally offensive and weird.

I openly state that I have AS, but sometimes I wonder if I rely on that too much as an crutch/excuse.

For example, if an ugly dispute emerges between my friends, and I wish to remain neutral, I will pretend to not recognize or understand their signs of anxiety, and tell them I'm too daft to grasp what I observe. It is somewhat disingenuous on my part to feign such oblivion, but it saves me the trouble of second guessing them, and prompts them to explain to me word for word what they feel, which sometimes mitigates their anxiety anyway.

I don't act more disabled than I am, and nor do I try to cover up anymore, by hiding my AS. The fact that I don't do any of those two things, brings to my mind, what a blast I've had at the Christmas party at my clubhouse, for the first time, over my 12 years there, last December, taking being yourself, to a whole new level. I don't need to go into the details, because can only guess what was going on.

No.

I don't pretend to be more disabled, but sometimes people treat me as though I'm barely capable of handling anything on my own. I tend to let them think that, if it makes things easier for me.