Conversations in your head and people's presence/absence

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I believe that many aspies will identify with this. I feel as if the person or people I would like to see are with me most of the time and this is the reason why I do not overly miss someone and don't seek contact/socialising as often as extroverts.
For example, I like a certain man very much and from what I can tell he also seems to be aspie. When we get together we have a blast, talking for hours. When we are not together, I feel as if he is still with me most of the time and I have conversations with him in my head often. I can guess pretty when how he would reply to certain things etc. I feel as if he is already with me so socializing with him is not as imperative. Do you get what I am saying?

I sometimes have conversations with friends in my head while they're there with me - we'll be doing something and I'll be having this conversation in my head that I wish we could really have, but we won't really have the conversation. I don't know if I even have their responses right - they might have actually reacted totally differently to the conversation than I was imagining. I think this is just because I'm very reserved and need to learn how to let myself have conversations. I guess I'm kind of a "if I can't do it right, I won't do it at all" person so I do everything in my head.

I think that shows how really close you are to him. That's really good. I only really have conversations with a TV producer in my head with real life docu-style questions. It helps me work out how I am feeling amongst other things.

This definitely happens to me. I have a constant flow of words in my head that usually speaks in fully formed, articulate sentences. Often I will simulate conversations with other people, though I find that I can only really imagine what I would say, whereas I just kind of "guess" or "intuit" the other person's response.

Be careful imagining that this is an indicator of closeness however. The simulation you run in your head is not really the person you know, and you'd best be careful not to get closer with the sim than the real.

By the way, do you think the people who report this would tend to be auditory thinkers? Take a look at some of my recent posts if you're interested in learning about that.

I have conversations going on in my head, all the time. They usually take place, when I'm alone, though.

The virtual conversations I do not do [maybe because my preferred conversation style is reciprocal lecturing? I do do mental lectures]. But i have heard of it, know people who do it. The not missing because they are THERE I totally get, though - My close-in list people are never further than the ndext room, as far as sensation goes. Only thing is, I cannot walk to the door and peer in to see what R is doing just now.

I always have funny twisted stuff I want to say in my head all the time but I never say it. Mostly because people hate me enough already why give them more fuel for the hate. My former co-workers at the machine shop I use to work at were always trying to get me to make comments in the break room about what was going on tv or to get me to talk crap to some jerk delivery guy. They said they could not wait for me to slip up and accidently say what I am really thinking.

I never thought of it that way, but yes, I have many conversations with many people in my head. I guess it does keep me from being lonely. After all, it's much better because they can never do or say anything to hurt me.

I have conversations in my head going on when I am somewhere between awake and asleep. Where I am somewhat conscious of the fact that I'm in bed and trying to sleep and that the conversation I feel like I'm having with someone is not really going on, but at the same time it usually continues for a while until I fully wake up or fall back asleep. Then once I am fully awake at a later point I will remember having the fictional conversation, which often times takes the form of an IM window in my brain, and will just kind of shake my head at how weird that is.

I imagine conversations. It helps me to interact with people, because I talked with them before, in my head. So my sentences aren't as chaotic as they could be (they are if I don't prepare, flood of words in many languages and pauses). Sometimes I don't need to talk, because I did it, so why to repeat?
If I go somewhere, I guess what can I say, look in dictionary etc. - and I can talk if conversation is predictable. If it's not... aaaaaa, help me!

I'm definitely visual thinker, maybe it's my way to integrate?

I find this interesting, because I do that too.

For me, the 'mind' conversations are with a friend who naturely helps me understand and think through life in general. I only see her to talk to once a week, but I frequently imagine telling her things and then a few of those things I will actually tell her when I see her. I save them up.

Sometimes I pretend to be them, or someone else who I know, for a while, to help me do something social, how I remember seeing them doing it or I imagine they would do it.

At night if I have a dream and I wake up I'll stay in the dream and keep conversing even though I get up and go to the restroom and back to bed I'm still talking to the person in my head.. and then I can't get back to sleep so I get out a book and start reading until I can comfortably sleep again.

Just in your head? Heck, I do it out loud all the time! When I'm alone that is. Or when I think I'm alone. When it turns out I'm not alone, it used to be embarrassing, but these days I just don't give a crap and think it's funny.

'Course, others think I'm off my rocker when they see and hear it, but that's their problem. I don't care. Let 'em think I'm senile!

I have a lot of conversations in my head. Fun times. Just.. try to remember that the didn't really happen. You still need to disclose whatever, you haven't really broken up with the boyfriend you never had in the first place, etc.

I used to be unable to perceive myself as being alone... actually, I don't know what that would mean. I like to be alone in the sense of having no one there physically, but I don't mind not being alone in my head, if that makes sense.

(Mostly, I'd like to learn to retreat into my head without having the people in the room IRL change that or affect my inner landscape.)