Yep. When you're quiet, you're told to "just be yourself" and "speak up".... And then when you actually do that, you're told you're being "rude," "argumentative," or "butting in." It's very confusing. They can't even explain what it is they want, but we're supposed to read their minds or something.
Funny side note... When my mom, my sister, and i were filling out some questionnaires before i got diagnosed(i think this particular one was for ADHD, and they wanted me to fill one out, along with two members of my family, about me.. but i was mainly being assessed for AS), the question was if i "step on peoples' toes" often. We were talking about the questions afterward, and i said "well, sometimes when i'm walking too close behind someone i step on the back of their shoes accidentally, but never their toes."
They explained it, and i get it now, but yeah... all the AS questions about "taking things literally" were pretty obvious.