NT Style Conversations (Read Between the Lines)
Regarding the second part of your post, I agree about friendly banter which includes put-downs, but everyone reading this should be very careful when engaging in this. I personally have caused some hurt feelings which were very hard to correct.
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I'd have to hear the tone to understand properly, but he mildly rebuked her (in a non-confrontational way) for pinching goods, which is what you are doing by consuming something before you pay for it. Then she said something that depending on the tone of her voice was either on topic but kinda oblique to avoid addressing his rebuke, or alternatively might have been an admission and semi-apology.
Customer: I'll pay for this chocolate candy (She was eating at the time.)
Cashier: (Cheerfully as if joking) You have to. You have no choice.
Customer: I like to eat chocolate. It keeps you from being mean.
Oh yes it can be a dangerous game. Just that there seems something kind of sterile about social relationships that don't have this element of comic insults. Nonetheless, when in doubt, I wouldn't do it.
Oh yes it can be a dangerous game. Just that there seems something kind of sterile about social relationships that don't have this element of comic insults. Nonetheless, when in doubt, I wouldn't do it.
Good points, well said. I think that if you know someone well enough, it is much less dangerous.
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Me too, but it all just seems so insincere and lame!
It's fun to watch on TV though and try to figure out which characters are actually madly in love with each other.
yeah like on pretty little liars do that girl i forgot her name likes toby. tv show not the book
I'm no Dr. but I'd guess it wouldn't cause any issues. The actual effect is very little. I think many people are just superstitious about it. Or it makes them feel less guilty about eating junk food.
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Just FYI, it makes little 'sense' even for me as a NT.
But here's my take:
Customer: I'll pay for this chocolate candy
"Don't worry, I'll pay for this candy that I'm eating. I know I'm supposed to pay first." -- basically making sure the Cashier isn't alarmed that she might not pay for it.
Cashier: You have to. You have no choice.
Teasing the customer that she is stating the obvious, but jokingly, to assure the customer that she is not alarmed.
Customer: I like to eat chocolate. It keeps you from being mean.
She is making a half-hearted excuse/apology for eating it before paying for it. The excuse is personal, doesn't have anything to do with being mean or nice to the cashier.
She's also doing some light bonding. I presume they were both female, because chocolate is a common bonding 'girl topic' - like shoes/purses etc.
Cashier: (conciliatory remark)
Reacting to the Customer's excuse/apology, letting customer know that everything is ok and that she doesn't need to apologize.
Customer: I'll pay for this chocolate candy (She was eating at the time.)
Cashier: (Cheerfully as if joking) You have to. You have no choice.
Customer: I like to eat chocolate. It keeps you from being mean.
I thought the last line was the customer accusing the cashier of being mean.
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Yea, she probably did start it all off.
I wish I missed those cues half the time, it would save the effort of deliberately ignoring it. :p
But here's my take:
Customer: I'll pay for this chocolate candy
"Don't worry, I'll pay for this candy that I'm eating. I know I'm supposed to pay first." -- basically making sure the Cashier isn't alarmed that she might not pay for it.
Cashier: You have to. You have no choice.
Teasing the customer that she is stating the obvious, but jokingly, to assure the customer that she is not alarmed.
Customer: I like to eat chocolate. It keeps you from being mean.
She is making a half-hearted excuse/apology for eating it before paying for it. The excuse is personal, doesn't have anything to do with being mean or nice to the cashier.
She's also doing some light bonding. I presume they were both female, because chocolate is a common bonding 'girl topic' - like shoes/purses etc.
Cashier: (conciliatory remark)
Reacting to the Customer's excuse/apology, letting customer know that everything is ok and that she doesn't need to apologize.
Since you only have the written words to go by, I can see why you made this interpretation. I might not be as good as some at interpreting these sorts of things, but if I read the tension in the voices correctly, this is not the intent of the two people. BTW the customer was a female, and the cashier was a male.
I was meaning to start a discussion about this general topic rather than about this specific conversation. But thanks, everyone for contributing to this thread.
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