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Hello everyone...

Please don't judge me but I find it hard to meet new people and make friends.
So this is why I've decided to post this.

So basically i'm...

Looking to form online friendships with people as I'm hoping to make online friends, as I'd like to exchange messages either on skype or via email and have people to talk too .If anyone's interested then please pm me.

Hoping to make online friends with people age between 25-35. Near my age group. As I'm 26 yrs old.
Here for purely a platonic friendship, form online friendships.

I suffer with social anxiety and mild learning difficulties and Asperger's like traits and dyspraxia
so talking to people online really helps me a great deal.

And like minded people with similar hobbies and interests. Anyone that is understanding and accepting would be good too, as it's hard to meet people whom are non judgemental or accepting.

Bit about me,

I'm into Rock, rock pop ,metal, post punk and goth music, playing the drums, art. card making( arts and crafts), game consoles such as 3ds and xbox360. I'm a vegetarian so I like cooking vegetarian food. Also into spirituality.

If anyone wants to become online pen pals then get in touch.

Many thanks.

Hello there sorrowfairiewhisper!

Just before I begin, I'd just like to assure you that absolutely nobody would judge you were - this is a place devoid of such ludicrous concepts. It's all about helping each other out here, sharing advice in things we might struggle with, and getting to know one another. And I've only been here a short while myself!

I too look to make friends here, or at least try! I'm 24 myself and also interestingly, I live in Dorset like yourself! - kind of half-way between Poole and Bournemouth. I have the Dorset flag in my bedroom, it's beautiful. It's an amazing flag and if I had the money for a proper flagpole for the front of the house, I'd fly the flag there!

I have social anxiety as well, alongside a battle with depression, but like to consider myself ... winning, in a sense. I understand entirely what you mean about it being easier to speak to people online.

I like to think I'm as understanding as I can be and I'm most definitely accepting - my core virtue is to learn whatever there is to learn, so these things are a must really.

I listened to a lot of rock and metal in secondary school - I'm not sure if it means anything outside of where I live, but I was a part of a small group of friends called "greebo's" apparently; who like rock music ... it's odd, I'm sure. I'm vegan and adore experimenting with various things - most recently I began making my own biscuits, which are astonishingly good considering the 4 ingredients: flour, demerara sugar, soy milk, and cinnamon. What kind of spirituality interests you? ( so long as you don't mind mentioning )

Nice to meet you!

Hello Kafka,

Firstly thank you for your reply and for being assuring! Just that because of my general weirdness and quirks,I'd worry about getting judged, especially when I'm putting myself forward and out their, quite new to using the forum. You're right though! giving the nature of the site, people here should generally be more accepting and supportive towards one another. How are you finding wrong planet so far?

Ah cool! i'm from Poole ( Hey that rhymed )
I wonder if our paths has ever crossed in the past.

Ah nice . Sounds like you've very proud of where you come from! You're very patriotic in that sense!
We're very lucky to live in such a beautiful county.

Sorry to hear that! that sucks having social anxiety and depression, the two combined can make life trickier but I'd guess we have these challenges for a reason. May I ask how do you deal with these things? I'd understand if you rather not share. When I'm down, I wouldn't go outside the house, I hate busy, noisy and crowded places anyway but when I get down, I don't even go to the places that I do like, hence one of the reasons I have no friends.
You have the right attitude , what with thinking that you're winning! each day that you go through is an achievement and I know a lot of people say this but their will be times in your life, where you will feel happier and experience happiness and it's best to hang onto that, you're time will come! I truly believe that even in the darkest of days, theirs something to hang onto and look forward too, even if it doesn't currently feel like it.
Oh gosh yeah, i'd guess society anxiety and Asperger's goes hand in hand, what with finding it difficult to communicate with others and having to try and hold and maintain conversations, is hard but at least with communicating online, you can sort of plan out what to say, before you type it out without having to think about what to say to someone verbally, especially when someone is awaiting for a response.

Sounds like you try to be understanding and like you, I think it's definitely important to learn things.
A lack of understanding can derive from lack of understanding. I too try to accept everyone for who they are but the only think I can't accept is when people do things that are legally or morally wrong but apart from that, I try to accept people, just like I would want people to accept me.

Ah cool! Do you still listen to that type of music? I've heard of Greebos. Used to find it fascinating as a teen, how people went through these phases, I admit I went through a goth stage and then a hippy goth stage when I was younger and then boho. Still like gothic things and fantasy clothing, just don't wear all black now or stick to one specific trend.

Their were loads of names that people would label themselves as being, I remember when people were obsessed with emo and then scene, I don't personally see how people can call themselves "alternative " or an "individual" and yet label themselves and then dress the same way as their peers. But I'd guess we all through a phase where we try different trends and try to fit in. They sound nice the biscuits and easy to make. May I ask why did you decide to become vegan?I don't mind you asking at all. Well my views are sort of eclectic, I like how Buddhist think in terms of philosophy but also i'm into paganism and connecting with all things natural. I believe that theirs some sort of god but I also believe in ghosts and I consider magic to be something of an action and of a thought. Like instead of believing in magical powers, I believe we're magical beings that create our reality based on our thoughts and decisions. I don't know if that makes sense? May I ask, what are your beliefs ? are you into spirituality?


Nice to meet you too!

Hello again,

Hey no problem. I too spent a great many years worrying about others and judgement, but slowly began to wake up to the fact that ultimately it's futile to worry about things directly outside of your own control. This forum so far is really great, people always reply to what you post, and it's highly active compared to some others I looked at. Plus, I like birdwatching, so the "ranking" system - that is, how many posts you have made - is represented through bird species!

I live very near Poole and do voluntary work there also, and the high street is great for charity shops! Plus, I love it when they have the old brigs and sloops at the quay; it's pretty awesome.

Well, I suppose so, but it's more I love flags aha. I've recently started a collection, and have the Union flag, the Dorset flag, Swedish flag, Tajikistan flag, and French flag. I've decided only to collect flags from countries I visit from now on though.

Well, I deal with depression like one might deal with a cold or the flu; I keep my mind off it until symptoms ostensibly begin to project themselves. There are initial signs I find, that if I identify them soon enough, I can isolate and work out before a full-blown episode. As for anxiety, I push myself to continue doing things outside of my comfort zone, because if one spends too long avoiding these things because one thinks it's helping, it only serves to worsen them; I have a lot of proof of that around me. Do you have any specific method of dealing with these things?

I agree with the sentiment about a lack of understanding being self-propelling; it's certainly a dichotomy, knowledge fueling knowledge and ignorance fueling ignorance.

I don't listen to much music any more, ambient music usually or if I'm concentrating I listen to atmospheric sounds with white noise to block out sounds, but other than that, listen solely to my favourite musician, Aphex Twin.

I think the whole emo thing is still popular, because when I was in school it was one of these "things" or "trends", and considering what I came to know of it, I still see the evidence of its existence when I'm out and about. I became vegan because of sensitivities I suppose; it came to make me feel ... it's hard to describe ... unclean I suppose ... when I ate meat, plus, I abhor how the smell clings to everything. Buddhism certainly has some interesting philosophical ideas, I recently finished a book on the idea of impermanence and inter-being, which, it has been said, correlates with many ideas expressed in recent quantum physics studies. I've yet to read into the latter statements and parallels, but I can envisage how it might be so. I understand what you mean yes, thanks for telling me Me, well, I get by just reading fiction for enjoyment and feeding my wanton to know through studying philosophy and books on whatever. For instance, I'm right now reading Camus' "La Peste" alongside his "Le Mythe de Sisyphe" - one of my loves is reading fiction alongside philosophy or biographical pieces on the same author, because you come to comprehend the nascent essence[s] of the separate works. But I suppose, to succinctly answer your question, I don't believe any singular thing, philosophy, or ideology, I keep a skeptical mind towards all things, and view all phenomena as something to be understood for the sake of simply understanding. As for spirituality, I hold the same views as the latter, and view it as something to be understood, rather than to abide by it personally.

Hello again,

Sorry for the late reply!. Hope all is well.

You have the right attitude and good point! you can't control how others will think or perceive you as being and I'd guess trying to fit in is just going to cause stress and if people are going to judge people based on their perception of them, then nothing will ultimately change that. That's great that you're liking the forum. I like that aspect of it to, the ranking system being represented through bird species. I don't know if theirs many other forums like this one but wrong planet seems to be one of the top ones for those on the spectrum.

Ah cool! I used to volunteer at the British Heart foundation before it was moved further down the high street.
Agree! I love Poole Quay, especially since we have the restaurants and the new market shop. That is nice too.

Cool! well I think it's a good idea! each flag you collect from countries you've visited will be a souvenir as well as add to your collection. Is their anything else you enjoy collecting?

That's a good thing that you deal with the symptoms rather then ignore it as that can then lead to a melt down if it's not prevented. That's a healthy way to deal with things especially for when it comes to anxiety. When I get depressed, I tend to wallow in it which probably isn't healthy, I feel the depression and go through the emotions but I try to take care of myself physically when depressed because mentally I don't feel strong and I feel tired but I know that if I try to keep active, it will help ease the symptoms a bit and when you feel better physically it sort of helps the mind as the two goes hand in hand. As for anxiety, I would try different coping strategies and methods on how to deal and overcome anxiety, especially if it's affecting my everyday life, I would read a lot of self help books to putting on calming music onto my iPod and try to deal with the anxiety itself but if I'm anxious about things, that I don't want to do but don't have to do, I wouldn't deal with them as it isn't compulsory but if it's stuff like, making an effort to go outside, when I'm not feeling up to It, I will push myself to do so and then once I'm out and somewhere less crowded then it soon goes but I know mentally, I can't stay indoors so when I have to go out,i will force myself too.


"I agree with the sentiment about a lack of understanding being self-propelling; it's certainly a dichotomy, knowledge fueling knowledge and ignorance fueling ignorance." very true! couldn't agree more.

Fair enough. Ambient music is great for quieten the mind. My brother listens to Aphex Twin, I like his single come to daddy and the track cliffs. Do you have a particular favourite type of ambient music? For me, I don't mind some new age or Nordic ambient music, depending on the song but personally I tend to listen to bands more so.

Is it? cool! seems to me that a lot of trends are often either revived such as goth, punk, steam punk, emo ect or often theirs new subcultures, when I was at school, the subculture scene or cyber goth seemed to be a thing but i'm talking more then 10 yrs ago now but I don't really know what's currently popular now.

That's fair enough, can understand the reasons as to why you're a vegan. I would like to go vegan myself but I wouldn't know where to start and I be worried about becoming vitamin b12 deficient but apart from sometimes I have cheese and milk, I don't eat an awful lot of dairy and i'm not so keen on eggs.

The book on impermanence and inter being sounds like an interesting read, sounds like you enjoy reading books, especially on fiction and philosophy. Thanks for answering my question. That makes sense about viewing spirituality as something to be understood rather then abide to it. At the end of the day, I truly believe that even science can only discover and explain so much, way beyond our comprehension as to the reasons as to why we exist but we spend our lives fascinated with the idea that theirs more to us then the physical being but some things we're probably not meant to know, we don't know how from a spiritual view point, how we ended up on this earth, let alone wonder where we go, once we die and i'd guess we're not meant to know. People are still trying to understand how the human mind words as well as our glazay, let alone our consciousness. But I do find it fascinating, what peoples views are on things such as religion to their beliefs one existence after death. It's good to keep a sceptical mind rather then have an ideology on something we don't even have concrete evidence on.

I don't qualify for the age range (I'm 43) and our music tastes are pretty different. Also, I don't eat any vegetables at all, can't stand the texture. I'd still be happy to talk though, my main point in writing was to tell you what I was thinking while reading your post. I was thinking "Wow, I wish I had thought of posting something like this and had the courage to do it, a pen pal would be great."

So congrats on having the courage to do something even when you were scared. I'm pretty sure that's the definition of bravery.

Hello Private Plye 99.

Nice to meet you!

Age doesn't really matter as long as people are adults, just put down an age range because it's near my age group.
Not everyone likes vegetables, I can't stand vegetables that are pickled, mushy peas or beetroot yuck! lol but I like vegetables that are roasted or fried.

But it sounds like we like different foods and music but that's ok
It's nice to hear from anyone, even if our interests are somewhat different.

Thank you for the encouraging message, I appreciate the sentiments.
You've made my day! I hope you'll have a fantastic day and thanks for the message.

My email address is [email protected] if you'd like to keep in touch. My preferred music is outlaw country (Johnny Cash, Merle Haggard, etc) but I really like blues, reggae, classical, etc. Right now I'm a little obsessed with Brett Dennen, I don't even know what to call his genre of music. I just haven't heard what you mentioned, but maybe you could recommend a favorite, something I haven't heard, as an experiment to see if I'd like it?

Also, my obsessions have frequently landed on spirituality. I've studied a lot of Buddhism and Zen along with things like A Course in Miracles, Carlos Castanedas, Neil Donald Walsh's books, Celestine Prophesies, etc.

It's funny you mentioned mushy vegetables because there is one I can eat a certain way my mom made it. She would mix green beans, potatoes and ham in a crock pot all day. I can eat that as long as they're the really cheap canned green beans and they're completely mushy. Other than that, I'm an anti-vegitarian.

Take care

Hi I wouldn't mind having a pen pal. I would have sent a PM but the option not available on your profile.

I am actually into very similar things to you:

Music

Various forms of Metal, Rock and Rock / Pop, Even some pop. Seeing Deftones in June!

Gaming

Well avatar says a lot on that love final fantasy but into most RPG/JRPS games strategies some action / platformers.

Love to cook well I experiment a bit lol usually best to avoid experiments if I have been near the chilli powder or been seen with a big bag of chillies yet they will all be in it..... well I am still alive so can't be all bad. I do eat meat but I see it as a protein so not the main part of my meal and a madras just does not taste right without chicken tikka in it

So feel free to PM.

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( If I ignore a reply it's not intentional I get distracted, send me a PM to prompt me )

Hello Privateplye99,

Sorry for the delayed reply, haven't had a chance to reply until now. Hope you're well?
I will email you and give you my email address that way, i'm happy to keep in touch, as long as you're still interested in becoming online pen pals? Thanks for the email address, will add you onto my list of contacts. Sounds like you've got varied taste in music. I also Like Johnny cash music. I've never heard of Brett Deenen, will have to look him up. I'd be happy to recommend a favourite but which band/ artist were you referring too?

Sounds like you've done a lot of studying on all things spirituality related. I've only read a bit about spirituality, reincarnation, near death experiences, science and spirituality. How we perceive spirituality from a physical point of view in regards to the subs consciousness and energies such as chakras and mainly watched things online about it.
Still an never ending process on learning and absorbing new things about it. Have you actually done like a course on it or have you just studied it from home and done some research?

Cool. That's one way of getting your veg. Nothing beats home made food.

Thanks you too.
Speak soon

Hello ZD,

Sorry for the delayed reply, hope you're well.
I don't know why you can't send a pm but i'll have to look at the pm settings on my profile, thanks for letting me know.

Cool sounds like you're into similar types of music.
Nice! bet you can't wait to see them in June.

Cool what type of game consoles do you play? I just have the xbox360 and the 3ds.
I used to play final fantasy on ps1 years ago, great game that.

Sounds like you like your spicy foods lol , so I take it you love curries?


Thank you, will do