Length of time you can spend with friends before exploding?

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Am wondering if this is autism related or me just being a jackass/antisocial. So some of my best friends (relative to my other friends which I pretty much do not talk to at all or extremely rarely) I can only spend like 1 or 2 hours with them before getting extremely agitated and wanting to place my brain in a microwave or duct taping the other persons mouth shut.

Part of it is my brain is just overloading because I have interacted so long and the other part is that their ideas are so stupid that I can't stand listening to them any longer.

The general populations ideas on the world, planning, and solutions agitate me greatly because they are based on such little factuality and are often just trends in society- not the persons own thoughts just ones they grabbed from somewhere else.

Also on another similar note, when I begin a friendship in the beginning it is a great time however it seems all friendships I have eventually turn into the person I am being friends with copying me. I can't stand this! It may be a form of flattery but there is nothing more that I hate is when a friend starts copying me and trying to be just like me. (Steeling my own ideas that are not theirs and could not have come up with- even dressing like me sometimes)

At the time that they start copying me is about when I cut them off from interaction and try to avoid them as much as possible. If I wanted to look in the mirror or hear myself talk I'd stay home and not have to listen to someone pretending to be me.

What are your thoughts? Does that sound egotistical? =/ I don't really think much of myself but I do think my perspective is unique and hate for it to be taken away by another person. If someone is to copy who I am they will botch it up, and I think it will make me look bad because the ideas that my friends might copy and present to others will be misconstrued and linked to me now if I am to talk about similar topics to friends that have talked to the ditto machines prior to me talking to them.

After reading this I noticed I haven't talked to my friends in 2 weeks.

A lot of people have this problem I think. Different interests are not a good base for friendship.
The copying might be so you'll spent time with them again? Maybe they think that being more like you makes you like them more.

Depends on the friend. Most guy friends my limit is 2-3 hours, most guy friends that like to talk about cars I could talk to at least all day. Girls, I can tolerate again for a couple hours, unless they end up in my bedroom then I can spend all day and all night with them lol.

You should tell them about your Asperger syndrome,how you don't like social interactions,but you still enjoy their friendship and their company.They'll understand and let you go. If they don't understand your condition,then tell them to go f**k themselves and find better friends...

1 - 2 hours is about all I can handle as well. My mom has told me I've always been like that. Family reunions are a nightmare because I have to socialize for much longer stretches of time. Thankfully, the get-togethers almost always take place at my own house, so I can escape to my bedroom to "recharge" if need be.

Seems rather indefinite for me. This of course depends on the friends, and amount of friends.

I don't try to have any social mask or make much of an effort to be social or whatever else I'm not that they expect. The friends I usually hang out with are similar to me in that they are also not too social (nobody I like to hang out with has a facebook or twitter or myspace or a blog, et cetera). We share the same interests, and usually only talk about or do those interests. Hanging out for me is relatively easy with these types of friends.

I'm only recently gaining a lot of self-awareness, so I can't really talk too much about my childhood (other than being really silent in larger groups). One of my recent experiences with a group was bad for me though. I had my brother and 2 other friends, all of which I grew up with. I couldn't keep up with the conversation, and really didn't want to be there. I wasn't with them for more than 10 minutes before I felt this way.

I'm much much better with just one, maybe two friends if they are the right people.

guys: 30 mins max, girls: about 2-3 hours. but these are maximums, when I'm in the mood. and I don't have real friends, maybe buddies...

Depends on who it is I'm with, and a host of other factors. But generally it's quite a long time, and I don't explode........I become kind of introverted, I run out of things to say, my brain tries to shut down, I feel panicky, I look bored and boring, as if I'm on a stage and I've forgotten my lines. That's why I rather like people who are talkative.....some of them will fill in the awkward gaps and make it seem like there's no problem. It's as if I can always react (and even at my worst I can usually do that in quite a friendly way) but I can't always proact. Others just start to look anxious as if they're wondering "why has he stopped noticing me?" Frankly when I'm performing at my best socially, I fear raising people's expectations with a performance I can never hope to follow.

Sometimes it's not really a duration thing. Sometimes I sense I'm not really on form even before I've arrived.......I tend to forge ahead regardless, and sometimes I turn it round, other times I can't.

I can spend as much time as I feel like with my close friends. Some days I just want a quick chat, other times I could spend days with them and not get fed up.

1.5 to 2 hrs.. then im usually really wanting to get away. I can enjoy them for short periods (if i have someone who im very comfortable with to take over the convo etc if needed).

I can spend a pretty long time, depending on the closeness of the friend, as I generally make friends with other geeks like myself. I do tend to get a bit uncomfortable if I'm talking about something I'm not interseted in.

With friends I can only handle being around them for about 3 hours max usually. I tend to get an attitude and think about all the other things I'm missing from my routine. They find it odd how things start out just fine and then after a while I start to go slightly mad.

I've never had the problem of someone copying me - that's very flattering. I guess it means they think you're cool. I can take someone for about 2 hours usually and then, at a certain point I get a very sick feeling in the pit of my stomach and must get away from them. The more attention they want from me the worse that feeling is. Ugh!

2 hours with a friend, and the longest time I've spent with my boyfriend was probably 9-11 hours (we've done that twice, I think) and I still wasn't tired of him.. it's probably because he doesn't require huge amounts of conversation and there were a few movies involved.