The autism social rule book.

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22. Fake confidence until you feel it. Acting overly reticent/shy just pisses people off, even though that may be what you're worried about doing in the first place. (still working on that one...)

29. If someone says "Nature is calling" and starts to leave. Don't say back "can I come with you, I want to play with you"
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(As they are refering to that they are going to the toilet, not about that they are wanting to go and play with Nature as i thought it meant. I only learnt that one the other week).

30. Try to keep pacing to a minimum around others if you do it. You may be thinking, but it makes people nervous.

31) Never just bluntly call a person fat especially if there female. If you take concern for there weight come at it from a more tactful approach such as taking concern for there health.

32) If your with a group of people, try to at least look engaged through body language in the conversation even if your bored. This might be hard for a lot of us but do the best you can. Its better then looking aloof or withdrawn.

34. People generally don't want to be corrected.

35. Never ever ask someone if she is pregnant.

always say hello to people you see regularly, such as coworkers.
i've never done this, and just realized that you will appear unhappy if you do not.
even though i really hate doing it. it should be a rule.

Excellent thread1 I'm sure I have some to contribute..

37. If someone is in the middle of a story, let them finish it. Don't interrupt them.

38. If something is bothering you, don't hide it until it gets to the point where it becomes so stressful, find somebody who you trust i.e, your parents or a friend or a relative or go get some advice to release that frustration the calming way.

39. Normal people can't actually multi-task or think objectively, no matter how often they claim they can. Bear that in mind when contemplating their bizarre behavior; many times their emotions (the main one is PRIDE or EGO) are overriding their reasoning capabilities. React accordingly.

*By "accordingly", I mean assuage their egos. Say something like, "We both know your way is the best, but what if...?" and then finish your sentence with your idea. It doesn't work all the time, but it works enough of the time for my purposes.

3. How are you isn't literal, you are suppose to say "fine" then "How are you?" back.

I'm still learning this one

39. If you have guests at your home, don't leave them to entertain themselves. Stay with them until everyone leaves...Taking off to a room by yourself is not an option.

Edit: I just realized how ironic this thread is.

#40. If you have a facebook page, and you want to add something to somebody else's thread on their page, be careful! What you think is funny or clever may have the NTs in a tizzy over it. This JUST happened to me last week. I still don't understand my error, even though I got a thorough trouncing online for it. You would have thought that I was announcing myself as the gunman that was on the grassy knoll. Bottom line: NT social pages should be treated as their game with their rules, which are unwritten. Give them their standard language congratulatory, conciliatory, or otherwise mundane replies if necessary, and save the fun and interesting posts for the aspie community.

42. if someone asks what you think about the work they have done, they do not want to know what you think.

As far as I can tell they want:
a) comment about a feature of the work to show understanding
b) compliment their brilliance
c) pretend you don't understand a second part so they get to explain

best applied all together and in order

43. Remember that when you explain something in written form, someone besides yourself has to understand it. Avoid using phrases that only you may grasp the meaning of.