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22 Jul 2010, 9:19 pm

I have been an aspie for 23 year now. My question is.

Does anyone here know any HAPPY aspies? I noticed my depressed kicked in sometime during my late teens when I had to deal with the real world. Since then, I have met numerous aspies. None appear to be happy.

Well, I am 23 years old with no education making 12.50 an hour living with mom and dad. I am grateful to have a job in this Economy. However, it depresses me.

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22 Jul 2010, 9:22 pm

Non-"aspie" autistic person here, and I'm fairly happy.

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22 Jul 2010, 9:27 pm

I think I am actually happy now, and for a long time I could not honestly say that I was. I went between "neutral" and "depressed."

A lot of factors here: moving to a new place, enrolling in/finishing grad school, putting a name to my "weirdness" (albeit a self-diagnosed one)--finally feeling like my life is going somewhere.

Don't be discouraged. All of this is a fairly recent development (within the past year--just graduated in May) and I'm 31. At your age, I don't think I was happy.

You still have time to make your own happiness.

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22 Jul 2010, 9:31 pm

i wouldnt mind 12.50 an hour. i have five years of experience in my field and i still make 7.80. I wouldnt consider myself happy, i still live at home and i also am 23. the last time i was truly happy was a fleeting moment in early 1992.

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22 Jul 2010, 9:33 pm

I have no diagnosis, but have been thinking seriously lately about how how I very likely have AS. So, this is from that perspective.

Me, I'm known for being an optimistic person. I don't know how happy I look to the average person I encounter... I only really laugh and smile around people I'm comfortable with... but I'm happy, and believe both good and bad experiences will ultimately come to something better. If we didn't have challenges to work through, how could we ever improve circumstances, and what fun would life be? Also, I take a bit of pride in the fact that I think I truly enjoy my interests (video games in particular) much more than most people do. I mean, how awesome is it that I can enjoy something more than the average person does, just because I'm capable of being much more interested in it than they are?

I'll admit, I've been thinking about life a lot lately... but I'm confident I can make the right decisions to move forward... eventually. My trepidation about moving forward worries me, but if I weren't interested in overcoming my weaknesses (while still just being my weird self), then I wouldn't be posting here, trying to understand more about what sort of person I may be.

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22 Jul 2010, 9:34 pm

I am fairly happy. I think there comes a time when you just have to accept yourself, limitations and all...

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22 Jul 2010, 9:34 pm

I was pretty depressed most of the time up until i met my GF. Then i became fairly happy on a regular basis and it was amazing. But now i'm kinda depressed again since she has cancer...
But also happier than previously for having her in my life.
Bottom line right now though i just hope her cancer surgery and treatments go well, so that i may continue to know my amazing girl and continue on with a happy life, and just 'cause she means alot to me and i want her to be happy more than i want me to be happy if that makes sense...

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22 Jul 2010, 9:35 pm

conundrum wrote:

I KNEW IT

You need success to be happy!! !! !!

When I was a 120 pound skrawny weakling.......I wasnt happy.

So, I worked out.....now I am 170

Anyway, I am tired of family and friends feeding me this BS that I can be happy without success.

Might I ask what your graduate degree is in?

Another question. How many aspeis/autistics tend to get fed the BS that you dont need money to be happy?

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22 Jul 2010, 9:36 pm

Are auties happier than aspies?

I spent some quality time with my niece today. Each morning I volunteer for the library. I feel happy when I can help others. I still made a lot of mistakes today. I don't know if I can impress the library enough for them to hire me.

It sounds like you have a job, and the pressures of that can lead to depression.

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22 Jul 2010, 9:45 pm

You have to have a job though

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22 Jul 2010, 9:51 pm

Not sure what "happy" actually is, but I am usually content.

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22 Jul 2010, 9:59 pm

leejosepho wrote:

Not sure what "happy" actually is, but I am usually content.

I guess it makes me feel somewhat better to see an older aspie.

Sometime must have kept someone going in life.......and that something had to be worthwhile

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22 Jul 2010, 9:59 pm

I'm an aspie, and I'm happy. I did have a rough four months, but I'm happy, again.

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22 Jul 2010, 9:59 pm

ApsieGuy wrote:

conundrum wrote:

My M.S. is in Applied Criminology.

As for the "success" thing, everyone measures it differently. What is your definition of success?

And yes, you need enough money that you don't have to worry about rent, bills, etc., to be happy.

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22 Jul 2010, 10:06 pm

I knew that!!

So, you also will be depressed if you are some scrawny guy too

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22 Jul 2010, 10:58 pm

Question..........

What tools do you guys use to keep you on track and NOT sucidal

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