Do you still live with your family?

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I do. I can't really work with people, and even if I could, I live in a really small town, and jobs are hard to come by. As I get older (25 in September) I start to want my own place, but I don't know how to go about it. Social security probably wouldn't give me enough to be on my own, and I have an aversion to that anyway. I want to make my own money someday, I just have to find the right job. I would really love to work at the library.
Anyway, how many of you still live with your family?
Do you have a job?
If so, do you like it?
If you do live with your family, are you starting to feel antsy like me?

Yep, because I'm not old enough to live independently. I plan on doing so in about 3.5 years or so, though.

Yeah, I'm either home with my family or living on campus.

I moved out when I was almost 20. I had social security and a new job. I only lived up the road from my parents and I usually ate at their house for dinner. I was happy to be on my own because I didn't have to clean up after my family and I only had to worry about my own mess than my brothers or my dad's. Plus I didn't have to deal with my brothers being in my space.

well, i'm about to have to move back in with my dad again.
so i guess so .
I don't have a job, i just get disability benefits ($339/month)
I'd really like to live on my own though

I live with my parents, and I will for the forseeable future. I wouldn't mind my own independence but I'm in too of bad health.

I moved out, with my brother (we've shared a flat for some time now), when I was 24 - it's been overwhelmingly positive tbh, although with a few caveats; I'd enormously recommend it unless you're dependent.

I live in my grandparents old house (they recently passed away) with my aunt. I don't receive disability benefits but probably will soon seeing how I'm practically unemployable.

I've been living on my own, for four years, now. I like it, a lot. I get to do what I want, without having to answer to anybody. I can close myself into my own apartment, for the weekend, except for the 2 hours, that I work in the mornings.

2 years for me.

I too am still living at home, I turn 20 to October.
Right now I'm educating, which is quite hard, but I think I can manage it to the end (I've been doing so in 2 years now, 1 year left).
It's not really the assignments and schoolwork that is hard, well it is challenging, but not too hard.
I don't know how an education as IT-Technician is in other countries, but in Denmark you have a job as part of the education, for real-life training purpose. Then you are switching between school and work.
So I kind of have a job, and do I like it? -Short terms, no.
There are a couple of the people at the work, who is not treating me in a good way, and there's really little I can do about it, cause they do it in ways there are very difficult for me to describe.
At the same time, every one of us in the IT-Department are also being loaded with waaaay to much work, so stress is also a fact.

I would love to get out and live on my own, but to be true to myself I really don't think I'm ready yet.

Yes I do and as embarassing as this is to admit, i'm 40 y/o.


While I haven't lived with them for my entire adult life, i've always been at least partially financially dependent on them.

I do.

I know from personal experience what a challenge it is for someone with AS to get and keep a job, much less build a career, but I also know it can be done for long periods of time when you know you don't have any other choice. I think if someone cannot ever live on their own, pay bills, prepare their own meals, and do their own laundry they are not high functioning and should have their diagnosis reclassified to LFA.

My biggest problem with Rainman is that they refer to Raymond Babbit as 'High Functioning' when he clearly is not. Being able to toilet yourself and tie your own shoes isn't very functional if that's all you can do without supervision.

Yes, but 'partially' means you've made a real effort to manage independently. Needing help is one thing, letting others do everything for you is just succumbing to weakness. If not for my family, I'd have crashed and burned several times over, but I kept getting back up and going back out there because there wasn't any alternative - I didn't know I had a handicap, I just thought I was a screwup.

There did come a point eventually at which I ran out of options and couldn't keep going on my own, but I would if I could. I hate being dependent on others, it makes me feel like a prisoner. And when you're perfectly capable of working and want to, but are being barred from it by discrimination against your disability, its even worse.

There is nothing embarassing about that, not in here at least!
If you aren't ready or don't have the abilities, then you simple aren't ready or have the abilities.
I can imagine that there must be difficulties about living at home at that age, but never the less, it would be stupid to throw oneself out on the streets!

No. They kicked me out a few months ago. I'm 22. I can't afford to live outside of their house, unfortunately. I'm trying to convince them to let me back so I can save enough to move out on my own. I live with two roommates who make my life hell. It sucks to be poor.