destructive behaviour due to AS

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When having one of my "temper tantrums", I usually can't calm down until I break or hit something or someone. (although some music sometimes tends to calm me down.)

Does anyone here experience the same destructive behaviour?

I keep a supply of things that I can break that are destined to go to the dump anyway breaking them up usally makes It easier to bring them there so I save them up for just this type of occasion

When I was a teenager I used to root through the recycle-bin for glass bottles to break whenever I would get pissed off like that. Always made me feel a little better.
I still usually need to do something destructive or violent to release that frustration, but breaking bottles isn't really an option most of the time anymore. I never turn that frustration against any other people though.

I've got a punch bag. Though I only use it for about once a week, and an hour at the most...

use to alot more, now i tend to take my frustration out with a volley of random kicks and punches, i also have a teather which i bite really hard a repeatedly. i tend not to ever hit out at people though.

jammie

Yes. I get extremely violent when I lose my temper. I have

-smashed my glasses, twice

-ripped a page out of one of my schoolbooks

-knocked someone down causing a greenstick fracture of the left wrist

-gotten into a fight (I was physically provoked that time: the other person hit me first, and hard) during which I jammed my opponent's hand between my knee and the door-frame, splitting it open down one side

-hurled books and shoes as hard as I could at someone, causing massive purple-black bruises


In short, my violent meltdowns are a real problem.

Our very contankrous next door neighbor's garden when I was a teenager. She was a real fuss pot about her garden and very hard to get on with, and I totally trashed it in a tatrum over an issue that had nothing to do with her anyway.

I have had extremely violent meltdowns throughout my life, though none have involved outright physical harm to another. I have punched holes in walls, thrown dishes and glass with the intention of shattering them to pieces, put my arm through a car window, slammed a door so hard once that it was thrown off its hinges, etc...

It can be a serious problem, because now I spend most of my time devising ways to calm myself down so I don't get that out of control.

- Ray M -

I used to do that when I was a teenage, and I've sorta mellowed out since I was 18. At the time it always felt justified even if it started out of something inane. Also, it was usually aimless anger, like I didn't know why I was angry. Certainly on many occassions I couldn't remember for the life of me what had upset me so much in the first place.

I never really came up with any decent strategies for dealing with this, although in later years when I was feeling down or a bit pissed off at something I would take the dog for a walk, and take my discman. Sometimes I would just walk, other times I would find a park and sit down and think over things before I headed back. Usually this was in the late afternoon or evening, when it was quiet and I could be alone.

i get angry sometimes and take it out on various objects... one that is ment for that purpose- the drum set
but i throw teddies across the room, or drum sticks or if a pile of say - vhs fall half over ill boot the other half of the stack to the ground aswell.

when i went to school, when peope bullied me i kicked them back, with the intention of making them bleed- success rate 100% also threw school chairs and tables at the bullies across the room, and stabbed at people with pencils pens, or compasses which ever were in my hand at the time