Overwhelmed by romantic ties to others?

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I wasn't really sure where to put this, but I was wondering if other people suffer from this too and if maybe it's related to AS.

I've always had an extreme problem with romantic relationships where I just get overwhelmed. If a person starts calling regularly to "catch up", I start to get punch-holes-in-walls upset/angry because it feels awful to do that certain thing even once every week (plus I feel guilty because I hear about a lot of people who speak with their boyfriends/girlfriends for hours on end every single night). I have no problem with seeing them in person, but the I guess the concept that they can call me up at home just causes me to become extremely upset.

If they start to get extremely affectionate in person, then I am pretty much disassociated from the moment most of the time. It's actually those moments in which I can feel the mental barrier separating myself from the world the strongest.

Thankfully, my special interest (art) is so strong that it's playfully called "my partner" by pretty much everyone so I'm not that lonely, but it's still aggravating. More so now because I can see traces of that behavior in my friend/family relations as well.

yeah, i get emotionally overwhelmed too... thats pretty common for aspies, would consider that also a main trait !