Page 1 of 1 [ 8 posts ] 

yukari
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker

User avatar

Joined: 17 Aug 2010
Age: 37
Gender: Female
Posts: 54
Location: Russia

25 Aug 2010, 2:10 am

I always very strong fear when I need to visit officials, even administrative servants or clerks. I think it can be called phobia, because I cannot explain, why I feel this fear. Today I went to apply to obtain visa. There was long queue, and the nearer I came to the entrance, the stronger was my desire to run away. I feel me nearly sick in such situations, and I cannot eat, if I plan to visit official organization in th morning.
In the university, when I need to get information about our schedule or solve any problems, I prefer to ask my friends if it is possible, to do this for me.
The problem is, is think, about contact with people: in some places, where it is not necessary to speak with people, it is much easier. For example, when I sign up to special journal, and come next day to take the papers, I prefer to do this, even I can get document faster, but through talking with clerk.
In most cases I can go through this all, and get papers I need (last case with visa was also successful), but it is very big stress for me every time.
Does anyone have similar problems? Any advices, why this happen and what to do?



Thomas246
Tufted Titmouse
Tufted Titmouse

User avatar

Joined: 31 Jul 2010
Age: 32
Gender: Male
Posts: 41

25 Aug 2010, 2:13 am

Sounds like paranoia.



yukari
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker

User avatar

Joined: 17 Aug 2010
Age: 37
Gender: Female
Posts: 54
Location: Russia

25 Aug 2010, 2:19 am

I don't have real problems with them. Maybe, because of this fear, I check all papers I fill in many times) And I am VERY law-abiding.
I don't think, that somebody watches me or something similar, so I don't think this is paranoia. The problem is with people, not with system. The more automated is system, the more comfortable it is for me.



Stellar
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 19 Mar 2010
Age: 33
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,249
Location: California

25 Aug 2010, 3:55 am

I'm kinda scared of them too. I act very nervous and awkward, and I think that they will think I'm up to something bad since I look so nervous.



auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 114,808
Location: the island of defective toy santas

25 Aug 2010, 4:05 am

people wearing suits or uniforms unnerve me.



visagrunt
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 16 Oct 2009
Age: 58
Gender: Male
Posts: 6,118
Location: Vancouver, BC

25 Aug 2010, 3:29 pm

This isn't an Aspie trait. Even NTs get anxious when going through Customs!

More seriously, though, this may be a manifestation of anxiety. If it is limited to certain types of situations, the best coping strategy may be to seek to minimize them. If it is more general, it might require some discussion with a physician or a counsellor.


_________________
--James


Aimless
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 1 Apr 2009
Age: 68
Gender: Female
Posts: 8,187

25 Aug 2010, 3:59 pm

I think many people fear officials and probably for many reasons. I was afraid they were going to "put me away" even as a young child. It was part of the depersonalization I felt. I felt "alien" and was afraid I would be found out and taken from my family. It was not a rational fear but kid's fears are that way sometimes. I guess now I fear doing something incorrectly (there are consequences) or looking stupid. Anymore I just go ahead and tell them I'm a ditz with good intentions.



Morgana
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 20 Sep 2008
Age: 64
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,524
Location: Hamburg, Germany

25 Aug 2010, 4:55 pm

I have a fear of officials too. I´m not sure why, but I´m always afraid I´m going to be "in trouble", even when I haven´t done anything that I can think of. However, this kind of thing has happened often enough!. I also tend to have communication problems, or I misunderstand things, so I usually don´t have that one important paper that I was supposed to bring, making the whole thing cumbersome, time consuming, and inconvenient for me. (I especially hate applying for my Visa, and things of that nature). I´m even afraid of receiving official looking mail; I dread opening it, and wonder what I´ve done now?


_________________
"death is the road to awe"