Vacations

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This is a post similar to one I posted earlier. I've rephrased the topic from "holidays" to "vacations". Does anyone here find vacations very unsettling or avoid them altogether? I find them very depressing before & during & feel so much happier once home & back to old routine. Anyone feel the same?

That's an 'oliday, that is!

I'm usually fine when I come back off holiday. Takes a day or two just to blend back in but other than that I'm generally pretty OK.

I always find that the house seems huge when I get back from 'olliday!

I feel the same way about vacations, unless someone i know is going with me. I usually take my sister along. in 2005 i took a trip to florida with a friend who has a similar vacation problem, She has problems being away from her parents my vacation problems is more about routines. She Cried on the first night, but was Ok the rest of the trip. I cried on our last day and felt a little upset each night, one night my nervousness almost made me sick. I was fine during the day, though.

I am very sorry about how disorganized this post is.

I only enjoy vacations with the condition that there isn't some person around who will keep saying to me, "Are you having fun? You don't look like you are having fun. Are you depressed? Angry?" because I've turned off trying to simulate social interaction and relax. It's worst at a place like Disney World for that kind of thing

Best vacation ever: A cruise in the Carribean. I had to endure a few family members I don't normally see, including one super-socializer persuader guy who kept picking on me and whom I apparently gave a dirty look at some time and got criticized about it for the rest of the trip (never a lack of someone around to criticize me these days). But, the solitary cabin, the weather, the waves, the tours and stuff; great stuff!

I don't have a problem with vacations, per se ... but the planning process can be overwhelming. I tend not to like to go to places that I do not enjoy, and I find myself staying in hotel rooms more than anything when I go with my parents to a few different places. My parents are trying to get me to have fun, but I have fun in my own way. I just don't like areas where there are a lot of people around. I have been to a number of national parks and so forth, and that is a different story. I like the outdoors. I have also been to a number of carnivals and some concerts, but the crowds tend to annoy me, so I tend not to bother that much.

- Ray M -

Lots of interesting replies....I find the last day of vacation I relax & enjoy myself more as I know I'll soon be back in routine! The only other thing that calms me on vacation is visint animal/wildlife parks as watching animals interact relaxes me a great deal.
My daughter has NLD/Asperger (undiagnosed so far) & is beginning to show similar reactions esp. if on day trip to France (different language/faces/food etc) & cries after a couple of hrs of it. My husband's folks live abroad & he is struggling with the fact I won't go abroad for a vacation. I can cope with UK or Ireland, but to go abroad is a sensory overload for me. Thanks for replies

Very rarely go on holiday,only times I have gone anywhere in years, is for a few days to a place called Bendrigg with people on my college course and will be going away with them for 1 night next month.
I find them mostly very bad to get used to,especially if having gone for a week or more,try to use my usual routine as much as possible whilst away-it is easier to get used to if integrating old routine with the holiday routine,I wish I had a laptop as it would help get used to holidays better.

I am going to Turkey by myself. I don't know what to expect.

I like some stuff about going on vacation.
Different language, different food, different climate (hotter).
The only problem for me is trying to keep myself from getting bored to death.
When your on vacation there is no computer to play online games on.
No tv or movies to watch.

Basically I take my holidays on my own... (Must be 15 years since I shared one)

Going to visit relatives only half counts, as alone, and as holiday.

And many of the things I like, especially my computer and my heaps of books are already at home, so I don't automatically feel the pull to "go somewhere" when I have time off from work.

On the other hand I've flown the Atlantic to visit a museum.
(Though the rest of Toronto was interesting, and frozen Niagara impressive)

Travelling as a "one" has advantage and disadvantages. No conflict over what to do, or when, but restaurants etc. can feel odd when everyone else appears to be on pairs or groups.

This September, I may be heading for Wisconsin, again on a whim to visit a particular museum, and see what else I can see.
House on the Rock, Spring Green, anyone?

Yes, I find holidays more stressful than real life. I've often joked that "after a holiday - I need a holiday"! The joke is covering up a sad truth. I used to travel around the UK by myself, hiking through remote parts of Scotland and Wales. These were holidays where I felt more relaxed.

I've had some enjoyable holidays in quiet places with my wife and 2 children, but there is so much stress in trying to pack for 2 kids. And I agree that having someone always asking why you don't look like your having fun drives me to despair. However, nowadays my preference for peace, quite and somewhere remote, is sacrificed as the others want sun, sea, sand, discos, parties etc etc.

Coincidentally we're going away for a long weekend this very weekend and my wife and I are not really getting on right now, so I'm dreading it more than ever. At least it makes me appreciate getting back to work (not normally fun) more than ever!