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I am waiting for an assesment for aspergers. But my family arn't convinced I have it even though one or two of my cousins have autism and one of my cousins is a mental nurse who works with people with autism and personality disorders.

My councilor and doctor think I may have it but they cannot tell me if I actualy do or not i.e the assemsent obviously.
The thing is some of the things add me up but some don't.

i.e being repetitive, having obsessions etc taking things literal, not being able to read people etc.

the things I do struggle with however are all the social aspects of an aspie, their are a few things I take literal and that is constructive or any type of critisism.

I am having a hard time thinking or not wether I have just convinced myself I am an aspie or not.

This is more of a bang my head against the wall type rant. but I just don't want to go with this assesment if they turn around and say I dont have it.
My family just think I am ignorant and lazy and just play up on everytrhing and make it worse than what every thing realy is.

well anyway their you have it.

I'm in basically the same position as you. I'm even the same age as you. One of my cousins is autistic. But, my parents are a bit more understanding, I think.

Just trust your instincts and don't let people convince you are wrong or bad for thinking you have AS. I have been accused of being lazy or a hypochondriac or exaggerating things, but my therapist thinks I have AS (like yours, she is not qualified to diagnose it, so I have to wait). Trust your doctor and yourself and remember that not everyone is going to present exactly the same or have all the same characteristics.

But yeah, sometimes I think, "If they tell me I don't have it, I will feel stupid for reading so much about it and identifying so much." I would have a hard time believing I didn't have it even if a professional told me I didn't ...

It sounds like there might be a lot of uncertainty in your family. What does your nurse cousin say?


I think an MD actually *can* make that diagnosis if s/he is willing to do so.


Maybe you have yet to hear this: "If you have met one Aspie, you have met one Aspie."


Just try to relax a bit. Nothing we might merely think or not ever changes any facts anyway.


Just two days ago, I had my first visit with a new-to-me MD ... and I simply told him this:

"My self-assessment related to AS/HFA explains many things for which I cannot otherwise account, and it does not matter to me whether anyone else anwhere either ever does or does not agree."


Just as with us, neither do any of the things even *they* might merely think or believe or not ever change even a single fact. You are whatever you are just as I am whatever I am ... and that is that!

I have the same problem, but I definitely see myself as more of a textbook Aspie. Problem is that I'm incredibly self-aware of when my Asperger's is showing... My friends won't tale my word for it though, as they're all used to me (and social ret*ds in their own rights).

I'd really like an assessment (for peace of mind, at least) but I have a nagging feeling that I'd be paying out a lot of money for a guy to tell me I'm full of it.

Ah yes, that "it" so many of them dispense ...