11 Oct 2010, 11:08 pm
11 Oct 2010, 11:32 pm
12 Oct 2010, 12:08 am
12 Oct 2010, 1:20 pm
Hi liveandletdie,
I'm 36, diagnosed since less than two months. The main phases of my life are like this:
0-16 extreme solitude
16-19 gradual socialization
19-25 the NT life
25-29 the slow downfall
29-35 the void, the search, and the unexpected discovery
So I think it is different from you. I have something like a hangover 
The 16-24 is a difficult time for most of people by definition. It is the time you are required to make a lot of choices and you don't have yet realized that the choice you will have to make will not send you on a walled road. Life is not linear, surprises and external factors ARE the rule.
I think that what you need is to make a few goals, but still very vague imprecise and far in the future. You need to keep them in mind. Once you have them, they will help in 2 ways
- unconsciously become a condition for your future decisions
- make all the small decisions relatively less important, less distractive, less blocking
You have to keep them to yourself and believe totally in them, even if you have no clue at all or no hope at all how you will achieve these goals.
My remote goals have been the lighthouse of my life. It took some time to achieve a couple of them, all of them I thought impossible at the time. The trust on remaining ones coupled with the trust in the incredible randomness of life makes me think that the life I have now is more of a necessity rather than a fatality.
I'll be on the chat in one hour, I just started my addiction to it 
12 Oct 2010, 1:30 pm
12 Oct 2010, 1:46 pm
I'm 36, diagnosed since less than two months. The main phases of my life are like this:
0-16 extreme solitude
16-19 gradual socialization
19-25 the NT life
25-29 the slow downfall
29-35 the void, the search, and the unexpected discovery
So I think it is different from you. I have something like a hangover
The 16-24 is a difficult time for most of people by definition. It is the time you are required to make a lot of choices and you don't have yet realized that the choice you will have to make will not send you on a walled road. Life is not linear, surprises and external factors ARE the rule.
I think that what you need is to make a few goals, but still very vague imprecise and far in the future. You need to keep them in mind. Once you have them, they will help in 2 ways
- unconsciously become a condition for your future decisions
- make all the small decisions relatively less important, less distractive, less blocking
You have to keep them to yourself and believe totally in them, even if you have no clue at all or no hope at all how you will achieve these goals.
My remote goals have been the lighthouse of my life. It took some time to achieve a couple of them, all of them I thought impossible at the time. The trust on remaining ones coupled with the trust in the incredible randomness of life makes me think that the life I have now is more of a necessity rather than a fatality.
I'll be on the chat in one hour, I just started my addiction to it
That's interesting that you have the idea that you have to keep your goals to yourself.
I have found that when I talk about my goals they tend not to come true.
So, recently maybe the last year or so I have come to that realization that I have to keep them to myself...I wonder why this is....
Hmm never noticed the chat up there, maybe I will check it out.
My biggest dilema when making my goals is this..
My parents have this idea of me going to school, taking the usual route and I know this is the surest/easiest route to decent success.
However I have my own thoughts of what I'd like to do...but I feel as if I am being selfish by not listening to my parents and going to school. Even though I am 21 years of age...
Any tips/ideas?
12 Oct 2010, 1:58 pm
I have found that when I talk about my goals they tend not to come true.
So, recently maybe the last year or so I have come to that realization that I have to keep them to myself...I wonder why this is....
That's the first rule of the aspie fight club
The first thing to keep in mind is: How NOT to become addicted to it
My parents have this idea of me going to school, taking the usual route and I know this is the surest/easiest route to decent success.
However I have my own thoughts of what I'd like to do...but I feel as if I am being selfish by not listening to my parents and going to school. Even though I am 21 years of age...
Any tips/ideas?
Thinking that a road is safe or dangerous is always a gross misconception
The goal, is not about a specific job, it is more what you want to achieve with it. Most of your goals are already in you, you just need to articulate them.
12 Oct 2010, 2:33 pm
12 Oct 2010, 5:23 pm
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