Acting immature

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Now that I'm in a steady relationship with someone and thus am needing to express myself and talk more than I've ever had to, I've been noticing how immature I act around people I know well. A lot of the time I feel like I'm almost putting on a show when I do this, in that my behaviour is unnatural or forced. I think part of the reason is I don't know how to express myself without being over exaggerated. I don't know how else to express that I'm upset except to whine and say that I'm upset over and over and stomp up and down. When I'm doing this, I know that it's immature and I feel stupid, but I don't know what else to do or how else to act. It's either act like a baby or keep everything to myself. Can anyone else relate to this? It's driving me absolutely nuts and I feel like I'm driving my boyfriend up the wall.

Hello fellow immature person.
I'm in the same position as you, the only way I seem to know how to express my feelings is in a childish way, I seem to be stuck in the emotional mindset of a preteen whilst having the intellectual maturity to know how stupid it is. Which ends up in me getting frustrated with myself, if I ever show that frustration, chances are I will show it in an immature way. Intense emotions and young mental age don't mix, because I can only seem to deal with these intense emotions at the same level as a child. So excitement=going completely hyper, Anger=shouting, crying, screaming and throwing my weight around.

That behavior is probably very annoying to the people around you. Have you tried practicing in a mirror? If something upsets you think about better ways to express yourself and practice on your own. You can even write out a dialogue if writing helps you think. I used to have to do that as a kid. They never found a diagnosis for me and as far as I know I'm not in the spectrum but I had some behavioral therapy as a kid, many years ago, and that's one of the things they had me do which helped a lot. It turns out I had, and still have ADHD.

If the problem is impulsiveness you might want to see if you do have ADHD and if there are meds that help you. Since you recognize that the behavior you're engaging in isn't approprite or doing you any favors you may already have better ideas of how you'd like to behave but are having a hard time implementing them. Meds might help if it's ADHD. Practicing might help whether it's that or something else.

Good Luck!

I am quite like that when i am with my sister, cousin or friend. ONLY with them. When there are others around then i become silent. I can also talk about almost everything with them, they don't mind the way i am. They find it quite weird that usually i am extremely quiet and introverted when there are other people around but suddenly when i am alone with them i become annoyingly talkative and childish.

I act immature, from time to time. It's quite fun.

I know how you feel, I feel super immature when it comes to showing how I feel. I am still working on it my self(watching sad movies and so on) but when I was going out, any time I started feeling away and wanted the poeple I was with to know I was feeling something I wrote it down. I.E we are out boweling and got my 5th gutter ball in a row, plus the sound really getting to me took my cell out and typed " I am feeling upset cause I hate this game and am bad at it and the sound is not helping" the people I am with know I am an aspie and left with me at that point. so find your self a midway.

My friend has to keep remiinding me that I will be fifty in four years, while I am spinning in circles in the living room and swinging from the door frames.

My ASish boyfriend and I act like this with each other and tend to block everyone else out. I act younger than the people in their early 20s...but most of the time I can't talk to them...The only time I am talkative and animated is with the few people I am close to and that includes my AS-ish boyfriend, my business partner (when I am not mad at him) and my schizoaffective friend.....When in a captive environment and other people have to be around me for any extended amount of time, they catch on to how childlike I can be...I have overheard other people mimick me..(i.e. make fun of me behind my back)

Children are fun to work with.

I am the same though.

I am very, very, very childish. That's why I don't like getting older. I'm 21 next year, and 21 is a big number for my brain, because my brain is finding it hard to keep up. I suppose I have a mental age of a 12 year old.

Things I do what other people of 20 have grown out of but people of 12 can get away with:-
-running upto my room in a strop and slamming the door
-sulking - all the time
-crying - all the time (my mum criticises me like anything when I cry)
-sitting there looking really solumn and acting really surly and pulling a long face without smiling when we've got company
-being afraid of teenagers
-wanting my mum to wash and dry my hair for me (but the reason is because I like my head being touched - it relaxes me)
-huffing and puffing in shops when my mum is trying to look
-wanting to muck around in my bedroom when my teenage/adult cousins come, instead of doing something mature and normal like watching a film or something

I can't think of anything else, but I feel really ashamed of all this. But the trouble is, it's always going to be me, no matter how hard I try. I can't just wave a magic wand and suddenly Bing! change into an average mature 20 year old. My brain takes too long to process the ''right'' and ''wrong'' behaviour, which makes me confused and bored at doing adult stuff.

But then again, there are a lot of things I have grown out of, like I get bored with playing on playstations now, and playing with Lego, and playing in the park, and other things like that. I outgrew all of that by the age of 15. So I am pleased there.

I act immature alot. I am 24 and I have been told that I am basically stuck at the age of 12-13. I hate how I act usually but I cant stop being the way that I am even tho it drives my fiance and family completely nuts. When I get mad I throw temper tanturms scream, throw things, punch pillows and or hit walls, when I am excited or really happy I get hyper happy like a little kid does, when I am sad I cry really hard and cant stop. Its hard to deal with but its the only way I have ever known. I am glad to know I am not the only one like this. Now all I want to know is how to deal with it and maybe try and not do it so much. At work tho I feel more grown up most of the time its at home where everything goes to crap.