how can I not know when I'm irritated/struggling?

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How can someone not know that something is bothering them?

Does this illegitemize the irritation?





example: every morning I have to loosen up the laces on my shoes and tug them open and put them on and tie them appropriately. and I do this ever day. I am always rushing.
and then something i encounter reminds me that I do this in the morning and I suddenly realize how much it bothers me and how much nicer the morning would be if I had shoes with no laces.

But since I didn't articulate it in my head, does this mean it isn't really that important and don't have much of a case if I go and ask for new shoes?

there are a number of things like this.

Many aspies struggle to articulate what they are feeling, and sometimes don't even know they are feeling something until the feeling is out of control. This is normal. For an aspie, that is. It doesn't mean the feeling isn't real or valid.

I agree with Alphabetania (such a cool name, btw!). I often find myself in similar situations. I don't realize I have a feeling about something until it's really big and maybe I even get upset, but even then I don't always know what the feeling is. And yes, I think it has something to do with articulating it, but I'm not sure. It's such a mystery to me. I have tended to treat my feelings like that as not very important, even though they are. I just find trying to sort it out to be confusing and frustrating.