Is that a good decision

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I have been asked by a certain someone in my life that if I don't make the decisions they want "Was that good decision?" Here are the problems with this. I do not know all of the decisions that are available and these possiblities are infinite. In addition, I do not know the outcomes and results of the decisions I could've make. If there are an infinite amount of decisions then there are an infinte amount of good decisions and an infinite of bad decisions. Here is another problem. How do you objectively determine what is a good decision and what is a bad decision? It's in the eye of the beholder.

Informer said something similar. He used profanity so I will not reprint this here. In a nutshell, he said I have control of my actions. He is correct on this but again I do not know the results or the outcomes of these actions. This means I lack information. I would have to know all of the infinite possibilities. How can I know all of the infinite possiblities if I'm not an infinite being with an infinite mind? Now, since I don't have access to this and I probably never will then I only can make a decision based upon the data I do have. If this applies to me and applies to everyone else then we made the best possible decisions we as humanity could've for whole lives. This means if this true then like Voltaire said we live in best of all possible worlds.

My answer to the question "Is that a good decision", because of the lack of data, it was the best possible decision I could've made at that time.

But, they didn't ask, "Is this the best possible decision." You are attempting to answer the wrong question, and yet, I think your answer is correct.

It seems to me that there are parts of the question which are being left unsaid, with the assumption that their presence will be implied. As you say, there is a virtually infinite array of choices, ranging from the best possible one, to the worst possible one. The questioner realizes that you can only choose from those solutions of which you are aware. The questioner assumes that this limitation is understood. This leaves you with a finite number of choices, which range from the best, to the worst, available choices.

So, you can only choose from the "slice" of options of which you are aware. Your questioner and you, however, may see slightly different slices of the continuum of possible choices, and either one of you could see a "higher" (better) or "lower" (worse) section. The "best" choice you see may be in the lower end of the options your questioner sees, or vice-versa.

Also, which choice is "better?" This is a value judgment based on the projected outcomes of various possible choices. Just as there is a nearly infinite number of choices, each of those choices has a wide array of consequences. Again, one can only know of a portion of those potential results, and each of you may perceive a different "slice". Then one must assign a value to the known possible consequences. Those values have to take into consideration the likelihood of their occurrence, and their positive/negative impacts on both the individual and "society". Each person is likely to weight those impacts differently, which changes that option's relative position in the range of choices.

So, your questioner is implying that on at least one of these variables, they see a "better" choice. If they are truly trying to help, they will attempt to explain their viewpoint.

Of course, this question is often asked after the decision has been made and proven to have unanticipated negative consequences, and they want to make you admit to a mistake. In which case, they're just being a dick.

Either way, you have a proper answer.

It the assumption is that you make poor decisions because of Asperger's and NT's by default make better decisions then this certain someone in your life needs to make some adjustments. There is nothing per se about HFA or Asperger's that justifies such condescension. On the other hand, if you have a track record of making poor decisions, the certain someone my be entirely sincere. Maybe you need to have them defend their position as vigorously as they would have you defend yours. The goal here is making good decisions. A true friend will accept some give and take.