Meltdowns about things other than sensory overload?
If I am backed into a corner over an argument or if I am out at night I can mistake the slightest thing as a threat, and completely go beserk if I cannot find an escape route.
I have been in trouble many times for losing my temper and not keeping control. The best solution don't drink, and ignore everybody that is a threat unless they physicaly attack me. that way I know I am in the right.
But yeah, arguments or people not giving me my space and always pressuring me can make me just explode, so I just do alot of stimming.
I used to bite people alot when I was younger aswel, I was taken out of play-school for awhile because of it. I now have a habit of just biting myself.
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I can really relate to this this was me all through school, especially when I was younger. I seem to remember this even in Highschool, but I think the daily doses of alcohol and weed were dampening a lot of this out for me by then. Unfortunately, self-medication didn't work well for me long term, so I had to quit. I did occasionally hurt someone, but usually it was wild swinging punches through a filter of red and tears. Even when i did do some damage, uncontrollable shaking and crying never won me any respect.
I have meltdowns when anybody who is not in charge of me try to order me around and question my motives. I also have a surge of anger when I'm told by certain people, and I will not mention names to get with the times. If anybody tells me what to do or how to life, all hell breaks loose and than I cry afterwards because I feel a great deal of remorse. If I want to be a misfit than leave me alone to be one. Don't tell me how I should be and everybody will be happy. It would also help if non authourity figures would just let me express myself and do my own thing. I feel enough strain around authourity figures being what they want me to be. I should not have to be ordered, questioned, attacked and molded by everybody else, as well. I'm taking a break from society and I'm going to try to get one more hour of sleep before my alarm goes off.
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RE: Biting
When I was in Grade 1, I bit a boy who teased me. I was a biter for sure. The boy told the principal and I got in MAJOR trouble, however, he thought what the other boy did was perfectly I fine. I never got how much biting hurt someone when I was little. I was almost immune to pain as a little kid, so I don't think I got the fact that it hurt other people. People were VERY surprised at my pain threshold. In fact, once had very severe strep throat and I didn't feel it AT ALL! No one believes me, but I didn't. I couldn't swallow, that's why I went to the doctor, not because of pain.
I had a mini meltdown at subway 2 years ago, thankfully my mother was there to explain to the worker that I wanted Mayonaise on both sides of the bread even though i can speak fine, they didn't understand me. of course when i saw her adding the cheese without the mayo on the top part too.. i got so frustrated and words just couldn't come out to explain why i was upset. then my mom was like, "she asked for mayonaise on both sides of the bread".
I've never been violent, but I get these moments of emotional overload where everything goes "black" - a bit like a depression, but much more physical. I usually go off somewhere and hide with my mp3 player for an hour or two. I can answer questions if I absolutely have to, but I can't really think clearly or pay much attention to the outside world. It usually happens after a nasty argument, or if I think the world is really unfair to me :s As an undecided aspie, I have to ask: Is this something most people experience?
I had a meltdown recently over an article I read in a magazine. It bothered me alot. Clearly, this is the exception to the rule. The majority of my meltdowns are due to sensory overload. The inability to sense when my nervous system is being pushed over the limit by daily sights and sounds, etc.
I don't know if this would be a meltdown or shutdown, but I used to have one or the other in school out of frustration. I mean, frustration over not grasping certain concepts, not being able to do something academically (like math) etc. Sometimes I would cry and other times I would literally scream and curse.
I don't go into meltdowns from sensory overload either. The only time when I lash out is when my brother yawns really loud in my ear - but I don't class that as a meltdown. That is just harshly telling him to stop.
Usually fears send me into a meltdown. Like snow, for example. I hate the snow because I hate when it's really slippery on the roads and the paths. Ohh, it's horrible! And when they forecast heavy snow sweeping Britain - oh dear. That sends me right into one. I hate the snow! I always start wishing it was summer. Not much drives me into a meltdown in the summer, because only snow causes them.
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My meltdowns are either from sensory over stimulation or being criticised by others. It could be a small comment, and then another and another and they all build up into one huge meltdown. If I'm away from home and something suddenly changes or things don't work out the way I want I'd probably get so stressed I build up to a meltdown.
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if you bring up a subject i don't want to talk about and then not let me leave the room. If someone wakes me up abruptly and my heart is racing a mile a minute all i can think about is breaking something. If someone hangs up on me before i get my point across i throw the phone <A few times out of moving vehicles> If someone laughs at me when i am near tears. I mostly throw things... sometimes I bite if someone tries to um restrain me. Oh assuming the worst about me or telling me i said something i never said... usually tears and rocking back in forth.
Sensory overload is just one kind of overload, you can get cognitive and emotional overload too. Although I see all of them as really just three aspects of the same basic idea (too much information trying to fit through too small a hole). I get all three.
Some of the non-sensory triggers can involve being pressured to do something but prevented from doing it, including being pressured to do what I'm incapable of. Even worse if the person refuses to believe I can't do it. That can result in bullies pressuring me to do things they know that both I can't do it and that most of the world can't conceive having trouble with it, so that they don't look like they're doing anything wrong unless you know my real capabilities. Then they sit back and laugh.
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Does any other Aspie here have a meltdown after someone shushes you? It does me. If I am talking and somebody says, ''sshh - let me hear the telly!'' or something, it causes my blood to boil and throws me into a meltdown. I don't even know why I'm so sensitive to being told to shush - but I am, and I always have been. Perhaps it's because I feel helpless after being shushed, I don't know. It's the way my stupid brain works.
Also, when people criticise me - especially when they're inerferring with my business. For example, I like my mum to wash my hair for me, because I have very long thick hair, and it's easier for someone else to do it because it gets the job done quicker and also it's easier for them to make sure all the shampoo is washed out (by the way, I wash my hair by leaning over the bath pouring jugs of water over my head - I don't have a shower, so don't you think I have someone doing my hair when I'm pure naked in a shower, I'm not that babyish!) But when my mum mentions it to other people (especially men who don't think before they say things) that she washes my hair because I hate when people say, ''ohh can't she do it herself?'' That really annoys me - I can do it myself but I just find it easier when my mum is avaliable to do it, and she doesn't mind.
But most of all, like I said before, snow causes meltdowns for me.
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