"My Family _________ Understands Me"

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Poll.

I swear! There's practically NEVER a day where I'm not rude or upset my family in some way!

I voted sometimes. Yes, there are misunderstandings. Yes, there are HUGE misunderstandings. Yes, there are more than there would be between NTs...

But at the same time, they're good people who make an effort. And we're all human. They know what it's like to feel pain, even if not for the same causes. They understand what it's like to have friends, and to be lonely, and to be alone but not lonely. It helps that my family members are generally highly intelligent and wise, as well as being fundamentally good, loving people. They try to understand. Plenty of the time, they succeed.

Wow, I'm the only one so far that said Almost Always.

They understand because we communicate about things. I'll tell them when I don't want to do something, or want it a certain way, and why. For instance, they now know that I don't want to sit with my back facing people in a restaurant because I explained how it is uncomfortable. When they don't understand something, they are willing to hear my side of it. They've also made the effort to educate themselves about AS since learning that I had it.

I guess I'm particularly lucky.

Blasty, a bigger part of that might be your ability to articulate your needs. That's often what blocks understanding in my family.

My family does not understand me as much, as I would like them to. On the bright side, it's made me the sweet, gentle soul that I am, today. I don't wish to hurt people, because I've been hurt, so many times.

Dandelion, good point. While some of it I can't communicate, I usually tend to get enough across to make sense. I do find that my parents' open-mindedness is a big factor, though. I feel bad for some people on here who communicate about their AS just fine, but their parents/family still won't accept it.

It's hard for me to vote. On one hand, my parents and brother understand me almost all of the time, while none of my other family members even have a clue. It's not their fault though - a person has to spend incredible amounts of time with me to even begin to have a basic understanding of my thought processes and behaviors.

Almost never. Because every adult(ish) member of my family, including me, currently has conflicting ideas about what is best for each member.

My family sometimes understands me.

its funny how some teenagers can say that no-one understands them, but they really dont know how lucky they are.
when i told my mum about my suspicians of aspergers, she laughed! she actually laughed and said i was just trying to label myself to try and fit in, and it would ruin my life if a i did. oh well... a day doesnt go by where im not annoyed with my whole family for something or other, no matter how minor.
and Blasty, how right you are

My family rarely understands me which is why I tend to be aggressive toward my mother (and this is why she thinks I have regressed since I have been forced to live with her again), they do not even accepted my diagnosis as dyspraxic until we learnt that most of our family had learning disorders. I am just "playing dumb" and "lazy". It's irritating.

My family often understands me.


We have our discussions every now and then over little things but most of the time we are fine.



I went through the no-one can understand me phase but now I think that in order to be understood you have to make an effort and for example let others understand you by trying to explain why you act in such way and so.

My mother seems to be unable to understand that her need to ask the same thing twice on less than a minute drives me mad but I have tried explaining it to her several times already.

They sometimes understand me.

I don´t understand my family (mom and dad). They are weird. I´m ok.

They don't understand me when I'm having a meltdown or am expressing a view that different from theirs. Other times, we're okay. :/