Do you sometimes give exaggerated importance...

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...to social interaction? What I mean by that is, I don't interact with people as much as NTs do, so for example when someone decides to sit next to me on the bus and starts chatting with me, for me it's a momentous event that I'll probably keep thinking about for the entire day, like "Why did that person sit next to me? Why did they want to talk to me? Did they notice something strange about me? Did I do ok or were they creeped out? Did they enjoy talking to me? What did they think during the conversation?" etc. It's like every bit of interaction is passed through a fine sieve and examined with a magnifying glass to see what it looks like on the inside.
Does this happen to anyone else here?

Like at school, when a chick talks to me, and keeps talking to me after the first conversation especially. Now, don't get me wrong, i'm not a COMPLETE loner, complete with a girlfriend and all. But what I'm saying is, people besides those who are my friends rarely talk to me, haha. When they do, I'm like "Hol sh** why are they talking to me?" and i become visibly nervous. Once I get to know people a bit better, I'm a bit better at carrying on a conversation with them.

But anyways, I'm getting off-topic.

My point is, I know exactly what you mean.

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I've been very much like that when I was younger, now I am less prone to ruminating over social interactions. Still, it is very annoying having a replay of what happened over and over in my head.

Yes I do that at least once every second.

I think it is healthy but with these conditions: Try to synthesize your questions into broader ones, make some assumptions, experiment and eventually draw a conclusion and forget it

The "forget it" part might be strange, but just asserting something is sufficient. The second reason is making room for new kind of questions

I think all aspies do this. I read its about our brains trying to work out what happened or why it happened. Or what that person is like and can we trust them etc. I am always thinking about social interactions. I try to have as few as possible because it takes up too much brain time and space.

I am a huge exaggerator! its my special power,

its probably because of my eccentric ego, its beautifully broken! just like my

I had that today. I still can't get over it and it's been hours since it happened.
An elderly woman approached me in the street and asked me where did I buy my earmuffs which I've started wearing on regular basis lately - I've taken to listening to Berkeley University's podcasts recently and some of them have a poor sound quality so I really must filter out background noise.
I think I did well - though I am sure that the woman was a bit offended in the end of the conversation. Poor thing, she didn't know I had quite a hard time just enduring her presence next to me and listening to her rather loud voice - I presume she must have been getting a bit deaf which is sometimes accompanied by a phenomenon known as recruitment - you can't hear soft sounds, but just a little bit louder and your ears start hurting. So she must have thought she could use a pair of earmuffs too.
Anyway, I passed over the fact that she touched my arm to attract my attention. Then she touched the earmuffs - because I got them off to listen to her. Fine by me, though if I had a choice, I would step back a few paces - and perhaps keep on running.
So I composed myself best I could and explained where to find the shop where I bought the earmuffs.
Then she said 'Now, really, I don't get the directions you've been giving - to the shop where you bought those things - can I have your number so I could call you later and write it all down?'
Well, that was the last straw. I mean, this was an elderly lady, about 75, and she probably meant no harm, but it was a bit too much, I managed to listen to her but I do hate private numbers calling on my phone and frankly, I have had enough for the moment. So I said 'No, you can't have my number and please, if you don't have any more questions, I'd rather go.' I could see that she thought I was being impolite, but oh dear, that was an order fo magnitude than what I usually manage.
Now why do I have to replay this in my head for an umpteeth time, wondering why it happened and did I manage well? Drat.