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10 Nov 2010, 7:03 am

Are most people superficial about who they will be friends with?

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10 Nov 2010, 7:26 am

I guess people make friends with whoever satisfies their social needs best.

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10 Nov 2010, 7:28 am

Moog wrote:

I guess people make friends with whoever satisfies their social needs best.

So, a doctor isnt going to be friends with a transporter

God, I hate aspergers and not having friends except my parents. Even my own little brother doesn't want to hang out with me.

This sucks

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10 Nov 2010, 7:35 am

any other answers?

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10 Nov 2010, 7:37 am

ApsieGuy wrote:

Moog wrote:

I guess people make friends with whoever satisfies their social needs best.

So, a doctor isnt going to be friends with a transporter

Dunno, what's a transporter? Lorry driver? People do tend to mix with others in their social class. I wouldn't say it was an impossibility though.

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God, I hate aspergers and not having friends except my parents. Even my own little brother doesn't want to hang out with me.

Well, you can learn to be a better friend to people. That's the good news. It takes work. That's the news people tend not to like.

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This sucks

I agree.

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10 Nov 2010, 7:37 am

Maybe there are degrees of friendship. Perhaps NTs allow superficial friends, but have several levels that also encompass close relationships. Do superficial friends take too much effort for an Aspie?

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10 Nov 2010, 7:39 am

Moog wrote:

ApsieGuy wrote:

Moog wrote:

I guess people make friends with whoever satisfies their social needs best.

So, a doctor isnt going to be friends with a transporter

Dunno, what's a transporter? Lorry driver? People do tend to mix with others in their social class. I wouldn't say it was an impossibility though.

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God, I hate aspergers and not having friends except my parents. Even my own little brother doesn't want to hang out with me.

Well, you can learn to be a better friend to people. That's the good news. It takes work. That's the news people tend not to like.

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This sucks

Everyone in my social class is f*****g ret*d. I can't have a f*****g decent conversation with them.

I agree.

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10 Nov 2010, 8:21 am

I seriously don't get what the hell is wrong with choosing your "friends"

You don't need to be friends with everyone.

The non-deep friendships IMO are useful if you simply just need someone to talk to now and then.

and honestly getting sick of the NTs viewed as being wrong, maybe those who constantly complain need to seriously start thinking about WHY they do it.

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10 Nov 2010, 8:28 am

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I want FRIENDS and people will just stop ignoring me darnit....thats all

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10 Nov 2010, 9:24 am

ApsieGuy wrote:

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I want FRIENDS and people will just stop ignoring me darnit....thats all

Maybe you need to take the initiative to get what you want. I know it is hard, It was hard for me too, but you got to learn to rely on yourself instead of just waiting for everyone to come up to you. Learn to adapt and you will do better.

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10 Nov 2010, 10:27 am

ApsieGuy wrote:

Are most people superficial about who they will be friends with?

It depends on how you look at it. Take a doctor, for example, and a CEO of a company. The CEO probably wants to befriend society's leaders and esteemed authority figures like doctors. You might notice this and call the CEO superficial because he is using criteria like social rank to determine his associations, but it really isn't superficial at all. He has deep, meaningful reasons that motivate him to choose his friendships. He is thinking about far more than just the surface, like, how his friendships will affect his life and how other people view him.

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10 Nov 2010, 10:32 am

ApsieGuy wrote:

DemonAbyss10 wrote:

I want FRIENDS and people will just stop ignoring me darnit....thats all

You are not being ignored here.

About people being friends, something shared helps with friendships. It gives something to talk about and thus gives something to build an emotional framework around. Have you tried to do something social around your area of interest or tried joining an Asipe group?

When you talk with others, do you talk and talk about one thing? and do you turn take in a conversation? Do you interrupt people you're trying to talk to about something that has little or nothing to do with what their talking about? If you do any of these things, it can result in people ignoring you because they think you have no interest in them. Also, sometimes people just aren't nice.

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10 Nov 2010, 12:13 pm

at this point in the game i'd be freinds with almost anybody! :pig:

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