Anybody's concerned as superior by NTs?

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I know that autistic people are often concerned as disabled (well, I have disability papers too). But I have something opposite. I was told that people hate me, because they find me conceited and above-all. I don't think I'm superior and I try to be friendly, to be normal, but they still think I'm better than others, so I keep away from others. I keep away, because I have social problems, I'm not an Übermensch!

Anybody has the same?

I think it's fairly common for us to come off as know-it-alls because sometimes we lack the knowledge of social subtleties, like knowing when to just pay a compliment or go along with what's being said, instead of spouting facts or trying to correct other people's misconceptions.

But I think there's something even more subtle going on. Simply being quiet can cast someone as aloof, especially if we don't smile or put out the right vibe that we are friendly and approachable. I know I find that hard to do, so I sometimes seem unapproachable or even judgmental.

In 4th grade I got told to my face I liked to show off and how cool I think I am and all that. I am not sure where that came from but all these kids had the wrong perception of me. Maybe it was because I was socially awkward and clumsy they maybe thought I was doing it on purpose so they read my intentions wrong. I was also accused of being selfish. I also kept away from all those kids. I was even labeled weird too by them.

Yeah that's when I started to fake normal and it was hard work but I only faked it when I wasn't around those kids. I felt better when I be in class because I could be myself and the other kids wouldn't even know how "weird" I acted.

In high school I got asked if I was a lesbian. Mom told me it's because I am always alone so kids are going to think that. Uh if I was a lesbo, wouldn't I be hanging out with other girls and never any guys?

Yes, when I'm angry I'm always right

I think this is just a cosmetic problem, I usually turn my phraseology from assertive to suggestive.

change:
- I hate hard rock, these guys just disguise themselves, scream some dull emo themes to lobotomized worshipers, cash in the money to stone themselves to death
to:
- I don't like hard rock
and
Dilute the rest of your thoughts with examples, at least it will give a chance to people to slip an opinion. It is enough.

(hey I like hard rock it was just an example!)

I sort of get competitive with my art and scholastic skills in an attempt to compensate for other deficiencies. It's probably not the right thing to do but........

I think it's a very good thing to do, it is just about the packaging.

If you are brutal, cold and go straight to the point (and you are right on your idea, aspie power inside) you give to your opponent's defense mechanism an incentive to think that you are a very bad person

If you are cordial and fair, don't go straight to the conclusion but let him insert some arguments in the debate (and you are right on your idea, aspie power inside) he will have only his defeat left.

Use your power for good. Find places to volunteer that can use your skillset. A lot of public libraries are looking for volunteers to teach computing and such. You can tutor for free or for pay. If you help people with what you know, they wont look at you as superior unless they are feeling inferior. My few friends use my brain when they want to start a project. They tell me what they want to do, give me a day to bone up on it and then get my input.

I've always been told I'm a smart ass and that I am conceited and I think I'm better then everyone else. My past teachers have even said similar things, saying "I can't know everything", even when I was right about something.