Do you not think ahead and is this normal for an Aspie?

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I'm going to say yes just based off of personal life experience. Through out Elementary school I was told think before you act but I act get into trouble then have someone tell me what I said/did is wrong then I'm left analyzing the situation and where I went wrong. Does this sound familiar to anyone or am I alone in this way of thinking? Thank You.

No, I consider myself more of a "mastermind" in my planning.

Sometimes I don't, sometimes I do.

Not even sure I knew how to plan ahead when I was younger. Now I either act impulsively or I plan several weeks in advance.

A couple of times I've thought that I said something wrong and then spent the next several hours going over it in my head. Later, however, it turned out that it was no big deal.

For the most part, I have the opposite problem--I overthink things and sometimes don't act at all. This was a lot worse when I was younger, though.

My bf has said that I have difficulty being spontaneous. He's right. This can be just as much of a problem as "not thinking ahead." Maybe I'm worried that I will do something wrong if I don't plan everything out.

I used to not plan ahead at all... it eventually got the best of me, and now I'm a compulsive list-maker. I recently looked at a list of things to do and on it I had "make to-do list for tomorrow". A to-do list to make a to-do list ahahahah...

The problem I've had with planning ahead is that if something doesn't go the way I planned it then I feel really lost and get irritable. Almost everything doesn't go the way I planned it, of course. That's how life is. But I wonder how I'm supposed to prepare anyway, if everything is so unpredictable?! Ahhhhh :[[[

No matter how I plan for something, work on my
reactions sto things, etc, when it comes down to it,
I blongk it up.

someone is mean, I tantrum, no matter how many
times someone said "control it", when It came
down it to it, not controled, and tantrum.

I often make long-term plans, really long-term like what I want to accomplish in life and the fun things I want to experience(I even have a whole list in my head of things I want to do before I die), but then have trouble with day-to-day planning.

for every moment a purpose
for every purpose a plan

I plan everything out in intricate detail and become uncomfortable unless I know said intricate details.

oh yes of course. now i have this little guy, to remind me to think before I type.

It depends. I have long term plans for my life. Plans which will take decades to come to fruition, but, without any doubt, will eventually lead to my goals. Paradoxically, I can't think ahead more than 2 moves in a match of chess. In fact, I tend not to think at all while playing chess.

I plan. I also develop plans in case the plan falls through (as this is how my life currently functions).

i mostly plan future conversations , which take up a looot of my in bed time, compiling bits of perfect sentences and replaying them in my head.......but noone ever says the right thing so i can place those perfect answers....sometimes i still find a way to place them but then they are not so perfect anymore.
as for planing things to do, it takes too much energy. i can't even think of unpleasant things i will have to do, because as i picture them, i am living them, stress and all. so i lose the energy i had for doing them by picturing them. it's like i have done them already, and i just want to sit down and not move ever again. so planning is not good for me.
Not planning isn t so good either.....as nothing gets done until i wake up one morning in panick thinking it's my last day before it's too late, and do it all at the last minute and it's still very stressful.

I do the same thing with chess. D: I didn't even know you were supposed to plan ahead, actually... even though I know that now I don't think I could do it, because not only would you have to figure out moves you could make in the future, but they would have to be based on the possible moves your opponent could make! There are so many undetermined factors that you'd have to have quite a few backup plans and I can't remember things like that long enough. DD:
I like checkers better.

Why I gave up on schedules. Instead I prefer calenders so that I have a singular timetable for every deadline.



I think that aspies could plan, but at the same time we sometimes act as though we live in a vacuum. I have astounding foresight for some events and none for others.

Therefore telling an aspie to analyze before acting is not helpful because we never notice the "right" things.