Is Not Being Able To Separate Situations Emotionally...

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...part of AS?

I notice when I get upset over a small thing, usually its because there's a lot of "related" things I'm also upset about, whether it's related because of past things that are still eating at me that involved the other people in the situation or whether the circumstance is similar to something else I've been thinking about or if I just feel like I'm overloaded with bad luck which happens a lot but then little things here and there remind me that I'm not always unlucky.

And then it's impossible to communicate all the related things to get people to understand why I'm so frustrated and sometimes it's things that are private. And sometimes people don't want to understand either or I pause to think for what to say to explain something and they speak and I lose what I was about to say or then have to think about responding to them and saying what I was trying to say.

I actually feel exactly like this. It's especially bad if something is bothering me about one of my family members-- I get upset about completely unrelated things until I realize how worried I am about my sister, for example.

And usually when I lose it it's the result of a straw that breaks the camel's back. Is it possible that I tend to melt down over small things because keeping feelings in check for big things is so important?

Stuff like that happens to me a lot. One such example is when I was in the music room at my clubhouse, yesterday. One guy made it very clear that he doesn't think that I'm a very good drummer and he doesn't like my drumming. I finally got up and left. I don't need to deal with that crap. I told him that he can have his jam sessions to himself and that I'll find myself a Kinks tribute band to drum in, to give him a piece of his own medicine. He doesn't realize that the world rests on an axial, not a joint.

Memories of high school, college and the sluts that I worked with at the factory started flooding back to me at once. Memories of making my way as a misfit. The thing is that I'm not changing for the NT world of today, because I really don't want to be like them, because they really do seem like snots.

I don't know if it's part of AS, but it happens to me.
It's strange, because normally my ability to see things as linked is impaired.

Definitely. I can definitely relate.

I frustrate my classmates because of this. Once, I was upset about something, and a kid said just a little thing, and I started breaking down...I had to take a break in the side room (the room in my school where you take a break), which is something that I detest with a passion.

This is pretty common for non-Aspies as well.

That happens to me when a lot of stress builds up and so when I do get upset I'm reacting to everything, not just the one thing that happened minutes before a meltdown. I never really thought of it as not being able to separate my different emotions before.