Would u forgiv for father for not knowig what AS is and abus

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13 Nov 2010, 11:08 pm

Would u forgiv for father for not knowig what AS is and abusing you,

My fathr has pushed me over he edge. I dont know what to do, he threatens me, and somtimes gets physical,

He thinks im really stupid and lazy and i want to set things right, i told him about my mental condition and he laughed, he says i made it all up i dont know what 2 do, i have no money and no job, im 22.



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13 Nov 2010, 11:25 pm

I have never understood the concept of forgiveness.
I would make getting a job and getting out a top priority. Physical and mental abuse should not be tolorated by anyone.
Any family or friends you could stay with, until you get on your feet?
There may be agencies in your area that could help. Call around. Don't get overwelmed, take it step by step.

If someone admits that they did something wrong and will not do it again, then maybe forgiveness is possible.
Has your dad done this?

I hope things get better for you.



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13 Nov 2010, 11:53 pm

I thought that you mentioned that you were working, a few days ago.


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14 Nov 2010, 12:00 am

I never know if I should take your posts seriously. For example this time it seems you purposely spelled many words incorrectly to appear less intelligent. Is your father really treating you in this manner or are you just trying to see how people reply? I think anybody who reads more than one of your posts has a hard time taking you seriously. I would respond with sympathy if I could tell it wasn't just a waste of effort :roll:

I'm just saying you aren't very consistent with who you claim to be here... so it's hard to sympathize for someone who is obviously lying about who they are :?



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14 Nov 2010, 12:12 am

yeah, my dad is like this too.

he knows what it is but he doesn't understand.

i do resent him, but i would like to believe that his anger and ignorant behavior is simply a product of a lack of an understanding, a disturbance and contradiction in his personal blueprint of the world that causes him to simplify something that is too complicated for him. i resent him for a narrow, conditioned view of the world and i resent him for him for trying to force me to adapt by locking my abnormalities behind iron doors. my heart rejects him but my mind understands that it's best to forgive him. for my sake, not his.



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14 Nov 2010, 12:16 am

Also you leave loopholes in even this single post. For example your profile says this...

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... Under diagnosis you claim to have "Other autism spectrum disorder" when this topic is saying you have AS and your father is being abusive because he doesn't believe you... which AS is Aspergers Syndrome. AS is a choice for diagnosis. This makes me wonder if you're simply NT and are trying to play troll with people with autism. I'm telling the truth when I say autistic people aren't oblivious. If anything it makes it easier to see you are being fake because all of the logic points to you being untruthful.



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14 Nov 2010, 12:20 am

I read this book called Magna Sententia, and the authors talk about forgiveness as "letting go of yesterday so that you can have today," meaning that forgiveness should be more "victim-oriented." They think forgiveness is where you "let go" of the bad things people have done to you (not "forget") so that you can move on. This is a lot different than the standard "forgive and forget," which basically means excuse emotional abuse because he is your father. I don't think there is any excuse for abusing your kids, emotionally or otherwise.

I'm sorry about your dad, and I hope that your situation improves soon.


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14 Nov 2010, 12:22 am

I am incapable of forgiveness after being pushed to a certain point...deliberate abuse is that certain point. So get a job even if it is mundane and stupid...get out and stay away from him.
Even if he is ignorant of AS...he is still not worth your time of day.


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14 Nov 2010, 12:24 am

CockneyRebel wrote:
I thought that you mentioned that you were working, a few days ago.
Just like one thread he makes to condemn Christian belief then makes another thread claiming he asked his Priest about AS and took the Priest seriously as if he was following Christian belief (one thread - against, one thread - for).

Corp900, I know with AS there might be some problems with getting things across when it comes to speaking/typing, but you're losing people willing to listen here; If you can't learn to make a few things clear (assuming you're not trolling), most of us will stop taking you seriously.

I've made pretty helpful posts in your other threads and I just ended up wasting time, so someone else can take care of this.