Obsessing?

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This afternoon I went to training for my new job and as usual the AS got in the way.I dont really want to get into what happend but lets just say it wasn't pretty.Anyway the reason for the post was I have been obsessing over the event all day(playing it over in my head,wondering what i could have done differently,and worrying about tommorow) and I was wondeing if this is a common AS thing and what i can do to stop because I have been driving my self insane?thanx for listening.

Sometimes having a couple of obsession helps - than you can try and switch to your backup if you get too caught up in one thing (lol). I was up until 4am one day last week just running this conversation over and over again even though I wanted to sleep. It was really annoying and I didn't even want to do it anymore but I tend to completely overexamine and reexamine everything though. I don't have a formal diagnosis of AS though.

I do not know if it is a common AS thing, but i do know that i repeat and rehearse situations untill i am satisfied with what i decided to do the next morning when i want to do it. Does that make sense? I am quite obsessed to work things out, and than i hope i made the right conclusion on which i base my decision. When the 'decision' works, i work out a script for future reference. It is a bit nutty but i know of more with AS who use this system to sustain themselves in situations like work and school.

Ethamin

Anytime something happens I do this also, it just repeats and I think about it non stop. Thinking of ways I could have done things differently, etc..like you said.

I havent really found a great way to eliminate this. I go crazy with it myself. If you know someone who can relate to how you feel (someone with AS) explain what happened to them, and discuss it. It seems to help..but only if they REALLY do understand.

Otherwise just do something to take your mind off of it, even though thats only a temporary solution.

I am interested to see how others deal with this. Obsessing over bad events is something I do way too much of!

I am really bad for this as well. Sometimes I even find myself obsessing over things that I did poorly or bad conversations I have had months or years after they have happened. I don't do it constantly, but one day I will remember a conversation I had a year beforehand, and then begin obsessing over it in my mind constantly.

I think this may be an aspie trait, although I could be wrong.

Oh yeah, maybe it is an Aspie thing. I think it is a combination of worrying, obsessing, and trying to be a perfectionist and analyse the situation over and over again to try and make sense of it. I know I always do this! and it really drives me nuts.

I don't know if I so much worry about the past events, the past is in the past, but if it was really devastating to me and I feel I should have done something better, than yeah, I will have obsessive thoughts about it. But more so I tend to obsess and worry about the what IFS, I worry about what may happen, what I think definitely will or could happen, and I get this strong anxiety and I try to think and think of how to get myself out of that situation, or what am I gonna do, and it is very stressful! College was so extremely stressful for me, because I had to produce good work but I wasn't very fast or very good at some things, and I was trying to find opportunities to make friends, and I was also very obsessed with one guy as I wasn't used to having a crush and didn't know how what to do about it, and then worrying about how to talk to him caused me to not focus on my work, etc. Oh dear, that was really an ugly mess, I think I went home crying on many days.

Sometimes I worry about something very much. When I need to learn for exam, I should to read more and more for quiting myself even if I do not learn more than I learn before

Argh I obsess over 'what if' and [bad] past events far too much. Even if it was one sentence I uttered years ago and I realised afterwards how to better rephrase it, I still obsess. And I feel the need to tell whoever else may have been involved, which gets the 'you're nuts' reaction. Except I always forget to say so it ends up months after I first wanted to say it so the reaction's generally 'I really don't remember that. You're completely nuts.'

Grr! :frustration: