HELP!! autistic man at bar won't stop embarassing himself!

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i am going to take all of your advice collectively and be nice but not confront anybody. i just hate to see the girls tell him to go away at the end of the night because he really thinks he might go home with them. it's cringeworthy... also you guys are right in that i can't even be sure he's autistic. there are plenty of nts with zero social skills... as long as he's having fun it's all good

Yeah right.

This has to be a wind up.

I think you'll find the OP is taking the piss out of us.

lol sorry look up the word "timmylicious" and it is the first video listed. i don't know who took it but clearly this has been going on for quite some time. however i did love his rendition of are you ready for the sex girls!

well last night sure enough he was there alone again naturally. he stood behind a group of ppl at a table of strangers waiting to be invited to sit down and after he stood there for a while he did it to another group and then he stood behind me as i was sitting

I'm sorry but when NTs know about someone's developmental disability and keep mocking them to their face.....it really bugs me when they say that we are the ones who lack empathy

Maybe I'm taking the title too literally, but how is he embarrassing himself? From your description it doesn't sound like he is feeling embarrassed as a result of any of this.

This is still terrible. When I first started reading this I thought it was just going to say that basically people were teasing him, which I'd have no problem with. If they were treating him like any other person but making fun of things about him that would just be treating him equally. It sounds like he's way more severe than I am, but personally I wouldn't want people to hold back in laughing at any of my quirks if they knew I had AS. I'd find that kind of special treatment patronizing. No reason to treat any weird thing about me differently just because it has a label attached to it. Part of why I never tell anyone other than the amount of stereotypes and stigmatization I'd be exposing myself too.

But I digress it's clear from your description that this isn't friendly teasing.

But I have an idea.

Actually bring in a group of you and your friends to chat with him, introduce yourselves, and try to hang out with him. You know like regular people. Buy rounds of shots, beer. Maybe invite him to things outside of the bar. Set an example for the rest of the bar to accept him as just another human being. While you're talking to him if you can get it in somehow you should let him know what the other bar patrons are up to.

EDIT: And why shouldn't he be able to go home with a girl once in a while. Bring some open-minded women in your group of friends. Not saying anything has to happen, but just to give him a chance.

He doesn't seem autistic. Look at his body language and facial expressions. I don't claim to understand them, but there's clearly a lot going on.

It still reminded me of the real Timmy in South Park.

Don't know what's going on there however I just wanted to say I dislike people who mock others for their own amusement. What can I say, I lack a sense of humour in that way.

If he's just having fun...meh let him enjoy himself.