Do you think i have aspergers? How should i bring it up?

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I am 19 year old girl have sever. Anxiety which was diagnosed as generalised anxiety disorder and social phobia. I had 2 years of CBT but I just cannot control my anxiety. I have reached a point where I feel like I can't cope any more as its just constant so I got an appointment for a 'screening' at my CMHT which is for monday. I started looking into aspergers and an convinced I have it. I have never felt normal like I fit in. I have no friends and am quite happy to go out without brushing my hair etc. I started making a list of things I have noticed to take on monday. I was wondering if this does sound like aspergers I don't want to get there and sound stupid this is what me and my mummy have noticed these are just written short hand. I would appreciate your feedback on it. how should I bring It up in my meeting I get the feeling the UK is reluctant to diagnose adults Also any advice in getting it diagnosed on NHS?

like to stay alone in bedroom

Don't like loud noises flashy lights

Routine that I don't like changing and must do things t certain times

Anxiety not relieved with coping skills

Collections of things topics owls birds

Like and remember facts

Have to complete a book once started

Daydreaming ALL THE TIME

Side effects to drugs worry me can't take tablets

Buy loads of cuddly teddy a and like to talk to then even though I know they are not real

Get really upset over arguments

Don't like eating out

Don't do anything normal girls do

Knee jogging and when extremely nervous rocking walking in circles

Remember number plates

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Your Aspie score: 124 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 76 of 200
You are very likely an Aspie

Hi there! Welcome to WP!

I don't know how going for a diagnosis of an autism spectrum disorder/AS works like in the UK, sorry about that. A couple of points on your list sound to me as if they could be because of AS. It's hard to tell from just the behaviour/preference though and that's why I want to ask about the reasons behind two of the things you mentioned.

Why do you do things at certain times?
And, what happens if you don't do things at certain times? Can you try to describe a couple of typical situations where you must do certain things?

It doesn't need to be too personal or anything but maybe you can think of something that you do almost every day or something you always do when you're at a certain place (when you're out shopping or when you're visiting someone or maybe there were things like that you already did years ago when you were in school)?



Owls are awesome! I don't collect anything like that but I've always been rather fond of owls. A lot of them have these complex and interesting looks.



Why's that? Any idea on why you feel that way? Is eating at a friend's place or at a family member's place okay for you? I'm asking this because even for someone who doesn't have autism, anxiety can make it difficult for them to go out and eat at a restaurant with family or friends although they would be perfectly okay with eating out if they didn't feel anxious about others watching them eating or others watching them at all (or whatever else is causing their anxiety).

That said, what about ordering food? Would you be fine if someone in your family suddenly decides to order dinner for everyone from who-knows-where?

Hi ya,

With routine for example in the morning for work I get up at 5:25 precisely I check facebook and emails until 5:30. 5:30-5:45 breakfast 5:45-6 get dressed 6-6:15 walk dog quickly. 6:15 to 6:39 reading books 6:40 (by the television clock ONLY) go to the loo brush teeth. There have been loads of timeswhen my mum has been in the loo I have said to her you know I have to go in at 6:40 and she says well the bathroom clock says it is 6:38. Problem is I have to go by the clock on the TV. anyway 6:50-7 read 7 do the drying up (mother makes me do this) 7:05 have vitamins and take my lunch/ make sure I have everything for the day.

As for the why its just always been like that mymum said at nursery if I changed activities I would cry and the nursery staff would say I didn't like change. NOW - I get upset and feel like I cant go to work if it is not done this way. Hahah owl wise it used to be penguins then birds in general now owls. I also have brief interest in stuff obsessively like guitar, roller derby then just drop them

Eating out is more like restaurants im fine at home but no where else no idea why :/ I also spend everysingle night in my room alone until I go to sleep im pretty sure that not normal either

From what you said, it sounds like AS in my (non-expert) opinion so you should definitely have an assessment with a specialist to investigate it.

Being diagnosed on the NHS is a bit of a gamble because the services can differ massively depending on where you live. There are a few areas with specialist autism centres who are familiar with diagnosing adults, but there are also a lot more areas with nowhere willing or able to diagnose adults at all. Under a recent autism act, you are entitled to be sent out of area for an assessment if there is nowhere near you which can accommodate you, so be aware of that in case you run into someone at the mental health centre who lacks knowledge about autism in adults - don't back down if they don;t seem to want to refer you. It should help that you have written a list of your symptoms, but be aware that they may not take something like online test results seriously.

You can also look through the National Autistic Society website or contact them for advice: www.autism.org.uk/
They have lots of great resources and you can also check on their website to see if there are any services in your area to help or advise you.

Good luck with it!