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To be painfully honest I have not even got mild aspergers. Its quite seveare and I do not know what to do or where to go from here? 4 years ago before i even found out i had AS from my parents it was not on the radar.

The smallest things stress me out and i can't function in society because i have moderate verging on seveare aspergers.

I get stressed out on things like not being tall enough (even though i am 5'11) when i am out in public and that is also causing me to become withdrawn.

Ironicly i come from a family where nearly everyone does not have AS but my relatives do dislapy traits of the disorder.

Its come to the point where my friends hardly ever see me anymore and i am a stay at home recluse. Whenver I beg my parents for help

When I get stressed I get worried about getting 'stressed' and that can elevate my levels of anxiety

PLEASE i really need some help desperatly becasue my friends are not bothering with me anymore


The problem is when i look up to a guy that is 'taller' i start to get paranoid and my brain goes on a loop of horrible self doubt and that paralyzes me and disables me (well not completely). A similar effect happens when someone acts cold and aloof to me it makes me feel awful and paranoid etc...............I am virtually a child in a mans body and just living in a fantasy world.

The scary thing is my aspergers was more mild a few years ago and now in my early 20's its just getting worse and WORSE hence why my friends do not want to hang around with me anymore. or if i do see them its once in a blue moon occurence.

What can I do?

hey man you should start seeing a therapist if you can afford it. My therapist is like my sounding board that I am a valid person and helps me keep everything straight, she is a huge help. Are your parents supportive? I'm not even diagnosed, I was very very mild as far as the AS goes, though I realized from when i was 8 or so that I was different somehow....but lately because of some huge misunderstandings that caused trauma in college I seemed to get more 'autistic' and my previously present AS traits like obsessive interests and structure seem to have gotten worse....so did my ability to read people.

I, too become paranoid/insecure about my body (and Asian people, im Asian-obviously) and am currently reclusive myself. I see my friends for a few hours a day, maybe 3 days a week...other than that im at home by myself or with my family- even with the fam i tend to do my own thing somewhere else in the house. I know what your going through, your not alone. the feeling of being a child in a man is awful isnt it- sometimes i feel that way too. Get therapy or talk to a friend, it really helps.

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thnks for the for the suppourt.

As for my parents they do not help me at all. i beg on my knees for help from them and they just say the same old thing for me "See a pyschologist".

in terms of behaviour i need to start behaving like a normal person

As for the height problem? Lifts?

The height problem with me has been an issue for a decade now so i doubt it gonna go anway anytime soon.

To be honest i don't know what therapists

because of my height insecruties I HATE having to stand up and talk to taller guys because it makes feel very insecure. I have no problems loosing my cool when sitting down and talking but standing up can be painful when i am surrounded by taller guys making me feel insecure.

I love it though when i talk to people a lot shorter than me. Maybe I should move from England to China?

wait your parents are right, you should see a psychologist...what other help could they give? to be honest, its not like they can come up with a quick fix for you, it starts with getting help. And dude I dont know why you are insecure at 5'11....id like to be 5'11, im about 5'8 and ive kind of accepted my height even though its not ideal for me. As long as I;m taller than most girls Im fine with it, i get insecure around girls who are taller than me. There are many girls shorter than myself and a fair amount who are taller so yeah im in between. I don't know what to tell you but dont move to China haha...my friend just got back from living there for 6 months and he said its like $300 US dollars to even get a visa. If you like being around shorter ppl maybe Southeast Asia will work for ya