This is weird . . .

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This is very strange and it has happened to me most of my life with people . . .

I have a strange presence around people. Like a funny vibe that people feel that they know I am somewhat weird or something.

I was looking for a flat months ago and went around to view the place and had a chat with the girl who had advertised for a flatmate. I expressed an interest in the room and she seemed ok about it. I then text her a few days later to ask her if the room was still available and that I was interested and she didn't answer until the next day and said the room was taken.

Also I recently looked at a car that I was interested in buying and I took it for a test drive and all that jazz and the girl who I had contacted was keen to sell it. I negotiated a price and said I would email her the next day to confirm whether I would like to buy it or not. I had the feeling that she would sell me the car but she never replied.

In both cases I have been interested and the people have never got back to me. I would be interested in other posts from WP members as this has puzzled me and I wonder if it's because people see something that is different about me as people have said I am different. Just wondering . . .

I used to feel that way more strongly. As I've grown older and learned more social skills, the feeling you describe is less frequent although i wish I felt it less.

Your car example, however, probably only occurred because she found someone who wanted to pay more than you.

^^ THAT. People's actions seldom have anything to do with you.

The flat girl got a nice roommate recommended by a friend, and the car person sold the car to someone who paid more.

Both did not feel the need to inform you of this, because if the roles were reversed and they got no response, they wouldn't have reacted the way you did. They would have dismissed the matter and assumed that the people settled into some other arrangements. They certainly wouldn't have come to a Web forum to ask about this.

The feeling you mentioned that they perceive you as different, that's in you, not them.

One of the challenges you are facing is learning not to put too much weight on what other people around you do. They have their own needs and desires and their own ways of making the best decisions for themselves. Like I said, has nothing to do with you at all.

Your experience wakes some strange feelings in me, I come to the same question:

"What do you feel about me" (not about clothing, physical traits... but like a story to tell about me)

It is a question that I have always want to ask, but never asked, like if the question came from the most remote corner of my mind and I it was not conscious enough to ask. Yet I don't know when it popped in my mind and if it was a reaction to a behavior of some sort... wired.

I wouldn't let it bother you. People are flakey. They don't spend much time worrying about who they need to get back with or explaining this or that to you. People are pretty much self absorbed. Once they get what they want, whether it be the roommate or the buyer for their car, that is it for them. It's over. All the other prospects they spoke to go out the window. So, try not to take it personally. Seems like you are a bit too self conscious. We all can be sometimes, but, try to hold your head up high, be confident in who you are and set out to find another roommate and vehicle!

I think it's the people in the real world who are self absorbed, and that we're the normal ones.

I know that when I advertised an apartment to rent, I got so many responses (more than 50) that I could not possibly have replied to all of them to tell them the apartment was taken. Nor were the people who didn't get the apartment "weird" it was just that I could only pick one!