Wallourdes wrote:
The URL doesn't seem to work, I get redirected to my homepage.
On Google there are links only it's the same story, homepage redirection.
I like the concept of the program, I'm in contact with some mental health care professionals here in Holland - Do you mind if I refer this?
Dang it.... Why won't it link?
If you do a Searh for NEW LEAVES CLINIC in facebook you will find the page.... It's icon is a redish background with a leaf.
Of course you can refer it. I will post the "text" of my MENTOR introductory letter just as an FYI here...
My letter to my Mentee and his family wrote:
Martians Mentoring Martians (a new concept/Pilot)
My own Mother tells everyone that I am a Martian. She said I was different than all the rest of the kids and she could only conclude that I had originated from a different planet. Mars seemed the obvious choice since space travel was in its infancy in those days and thus she dubbed me a Martian. She describes me as this, “weird, loner-child who generally pushed people away and spent hour upon hour quietly observing the world when not swinging or spinning.” But even though my parents did not fully understand me, they loved me in as much as any Earthling can love a Martian.
Socially speaking, I had an advocate in my big brother while I was growing up. He and his friends were kind to me, so I always had someone to talk to. I did not do quite as well in my own classroom however and I soon realized that I was physically not as capable as my peers and perceived to be quite odd socially. It was confusing to me in many ways and school curriculum was (quite frankly put) boring most of the time. Finally, when I was about 9 years old I began to tap into my super-powers.
Yes, that’s right. I said super-powers. You see, Martians have them. Let me explain this phenomenon a bit more deeply as I see it from my own 47-years personal experience living on this planet as a Martian. This planet called “Earth” is filled with a majority of people called “Earthlings” and interspersed in that majority mix are beings that look identical to these Earthlings but are very much NOT Earthlings. Recently the Earthlings have given us a formal name, “ASD” but I still prefer Martian so I will keep to that terminology. Nobody knows the exact ratio of Earthlings to Martians but it is reported to be as high as 1 in 100 in the US general population and much higher in certain environments such as High-Tech areas.
This conversation begs a formal definition of both Earthlings and Martians and books have been written on that topic, but I will give you my very succinct definition as I see it.
Earthlings are Human-beings seeking spiritual experiences and Martians are Spiritual-begins having human experiences.
As you can, perhaps, see from the definition we are very complimentary to one another even though we are vastly different. From my point of view, we can coexist and it is my humble opinion that we MUST have one another.
It is currently my opinion that many/most Martians are raised by and taught by Earthlings. This is mostly due to the sheer outnumbering of Earthlings to Martians but is also due to the fact that “mentoring” type jobs are typically held by Earthlings. Most documentation and training material is also written by Earthlings and while all this is awesome for our growth and existence on this planet, it doesn’t really fully address the “Martian” part of our kind.
You see, Martians MUST know and understand their own kind in order to find a place on this Earth. They must be taught the rules of the Earth from a Martian perspective as well as the Earthling perspective. They must be taught to be “okay” with being Martian while integrating into Earth. Finally and perhaps most importantly is that they must be taught how to make best use of their super-powers.
In a Martian Mentorship Program, the following curriculum is offered to applicants…
Rules: The one super-power possessed by every Earthling is this enviable ability to read minds. They know via this “magic” instinct that a word such as “weird” might have a negative connotation to another Earthling or that another Earthling may not be interested in our technical conversations. They watch each other (and us) for unspoken intent. (Scary isn’t it?) The only way for Martins to even begin to delve into this Earthly super-power is to understand rules of Earthlings. So first order of business in a Martian Mentorship progam is rules management instruction.
Of course along with all these rules comes the obvious awareness that these rules often have no logical meaning. As such, it is my belief that every Martian knows instinctively that rules are quite often meant to be broken. What they do not instinctively understand, without some proper guidance, is that rules will also allow them to integrate as well as have fun with their fellow Earthlings.
Three “special” rules about rules to always keep in mind in the day-to-day adventures of being a Martian living on Earth are as follows….
• You may NEVER break a rule unless you know (in great detail) the rule:
• You must NEVER hurt another person (Earthling or otherwise)
• Have Fun and cause laughter (laugh at yourself even)
The way to be successful with these rules is to begin to categorize other rules. Then use a system to make sure that these “special” rules are never broken. Only another Martian can truly understand and teach this intricate risk-versus-benefit-rule system.
Super-Power Management: Remember I said that all Martians have them? They do. Within each of us is a unique and powerful super-power. Some of us have multiple. Most Martians are brilliant beyond their years in their area of interest (or obsession as I call it), others have a unique sense of hearing or seeing of the world. We all feel less social pressure to do things like the Earthlings which results in us being “weird” but “weird in a good way”. Let me explain… Most well-meaning Earthlings will tell us that “Normal is Boring” but what they miss is the fact that normal is more than just boring. Normal leads to apathy and once apathy is reached a person dies. By disrupting “normal” on a regular basis in a highly positive way (see the rules above) we Martians actually end up by saving the Earthlings and saving the Planet from the death of apathy through “normal”. But just like Harry Potter going off to school to understand how to unleash his super powers, a Martian will grow better under the guidance of another Martian in the art of harnessing their super-powers.
Celebration and Management of “being Martian”: Along with our super-powers comes a uniqueness that we Martians must learn to understand and also to advocate for on this planet. I cannot speak to every Martian as we are all unique inside of our special Martian-selves but I will speak to what I mean from my own personal experience.
I have never been able to feel pain. At least not like a normal person. Broken bones in particular do not hurt me and the past two breaks I got during games, I did not know I had until weeks after they occurred. Doctors and Physical Therapists have accused me in the past of having mental issues or playing games with them because this is not “normal”, but I have educated these well-meaning but ignorant Earthlings that hypo-sensitivity is a real issue and have advocated for special services that allow me to still play competitive sports. I carry ear-plugs with me everywhere and have no problems advocating to peers as well as supervisors about my special audio hyper sensory needs.
As a Martian, I have higher levels of anxiety, so I must be extra careful to understand nutrition and physical exercise. In order to accomplish this, I have earned my personal training certificate and I also play football on a professional female full contact team. None of these things would have happened if not for my poor proprioception skills, my awful motor skills and my natural tendency to forget to eat. Today I am considered an “elite” athlete amongst my peers and I am defying the aging process.
Martians tend to stim and many well-meaning Earthlings try to knock that out of us. I cannot see the value in that for most applications and do my special stims whenever and wherever I can get away with it. I attend a conference every year in KS (for example) for physical fitness and am teased by my friends because for the entire 8 hours of lecture, I pace in the back of the room. I rarely sit for any lecture or any long meeting at work even. As an experienced Martian, I have learned to advocate for my stim needs with great success.
Taking Responsibility: A very important learning for any Martian about being on Earth is that they often cause their own troubles and bullying. Martians MUST be “opened” to the concept that their perception does not match general perception. Martians can explain this in a logical and clear way that might be better received by another Martian.
Balance: Finally Martians MUST round out their obsessions. The key to happiness for both Earthlings and Martians is to have a balanced life. For example: An obsession in Math MUST be met with an equal obsession in Art or Animals, or some other thing. Our anxieties must regularly be understood, challenged and faced. Balance is a MUST and this is more important for Martians as through a balanced understanding of HOW this Earth works, they can become better advocates for their specialness. I could go on and on… Net is that all Martians have special needs that must be attended to. These needs must be identified and strategies towards balance can be suggested by another Martian and worked on with the help of well-meaning Earthling advocates.
30 Dec 2010, 7:05 pm
I think this board doesn't allow facebook links or something...
