Guilty of tactless overdisclosure

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I am so mad at myself..I am so lame...I keep forgetting how taboo it is to openly disclose one's neuro-developmental idiosyncrasies..I have to....AAAAArrrrrgh......

I got voted "Worst Bartender" in this month's issue of the "Free Press" a local "hipster" newspaper....
http://www.freepresshouston.com/feature ... mment-5656

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aaaaaah...

I ASKED to be named "Worst Bartender" I have sensory and social dysfunctions that make bar-tending an awful pain for me at times.

I had explained to the guy who runs the paper that I am on the autistic spectrum..I am assessed as having Asperger's ......But though it was done by a professional at a center for autistic adults and children, AND the AS-Specialist who gave the assessment said that it I could consider it a diagnosis...I am aware that it is not formal enough to count as a proper diagnosis...so...I really just say that I am on the autistic spectrum because I have too many traits....to NOT be on the autistic spectrum....and the statement that I have been assessed by a professional is NOT untrue...it did happen...and the lady told me that she would not have told me I had Asperger's if she'd thought otherwise...and she had conducted 100's of assessments..

SO...this would be different than "self-proclaimed borderline autistic"......correct? The very term "borderline autistic" is inaccurate....no?


it was a personal joke between me and myself that I should not have made public...(the Worst Bartender thing)...and I should not have brought the "A" word into it...and FURTHERMORE...I am unsure as to whether that was part of the request...though I did EXPLAIN to the paper guy why I wanted the Anti-Award...and that was part of the explanation...

I am upset because my boyfriend read it and took it literally..when it was meant to be "tongue in cheek" sorta.....BUT I am also upset because even though they fulfilled my not-very-well thought out request...I was not given a chance to explain myself...and ended up being misconstrued...

So I might have caused my boyfriend to make a fool of himself when he posted comments on the forum in my defense..and also I feel badly......Even though I am very much in favor of education about, awareness and acceptance of Neuro-diverse people...I don't want to put my boyfriend in a position of having to feel embarrassed or self-conscious about the fact that he is dating someone who has mistakenly chosen to be so open about being on the spectrum..I am worried that perhaps his parents will judge me/him for it...and maybe some of his friends...

and that is a dumb thing for me to be embarrassed/worried about.....no?

The write up is very positive, and the "self-proclaimed ‘ borderline autistic bartender’" really makes no difference to the article - the Free Houston Press (thanks to you) is declaring autistic diversity to be a positive part of society. Well done.

I wouldn't stress

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Last edited by wornlight on 07 Jan 2011, 6:25 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I agree, I don't think you need to feel badly about it at all.

Thanks.....good...I feel better..I freaked out about it a little this morning.

I usually speak either too little or too much. I'm usually silent around others but if I hear something that catches my attention or am addressed I usually have a difficulty with ceasing my soliloquy.

Yeah the article basically says you're the best thing in the whole bar . Nothing to worry about.