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07 Jan 2011, 5:40 am

Here is a place to list some of the things that N/T people do that you find particularly annoying and stressful. Here is a start:

1. Incessant inappropriately LOUD and/or unusual laughing

2. Loud whistling in a public place (weren't most of this taught that this is rude ?)

3. The sound of paging employees through the speaker on your phone when you least expect it and when its seems about 20 db louder than it needs to be



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07 Jan 2011, 6:03 am

4. People esp in grocery stores constantly walking directly toward me as if I'm either not there or that they can't see plainly that if they continue on their current path we will collide. Do they really always expect me to be the one that changes my direction and speed ?



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07 Jan 2011, 6:09 am

5. Playing music open speaker in a public place. Nobody cares about what you listen to! Most of us think it's God awful.

6. Talking about someone behind their back.

7. How average people are supposedly better than the mentally challenged and intelligent people. You know what I mean? Either you're too dumb or too smart to be liked by them. Tell me I'm not the only person who feels this way.


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07 Jan 2011, 6:25 am

Expecting people to read social cues, and expect us to know what they are thinking without them having to tell us.


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07 Jan 2011, 6:27 am

9. crowding around the counter of a mall food court restaurant so you can't see the menu items on display.

#4 happened to me at the same restaurant, I was just standing there looking at the menu on the wall and two people decided to try to walk right through me.



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07 Jan 2011, 6:31 am

They keep sexism alive and well, by expecting everybody to conform to gender roles.


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07 Jan 2011, 9:52 am

PM wrote:
9. crowding around the counter of a mall food court restaurant so you can't see the menu items on display.

#4 happened to me at the same restaurant, I was just standing there looking at the menu on the wall and two people decided to try to walk right through me.


I hate this too, or perhaps when you are looking at greeting cards or a magazine rack from a few steps back so you can survey the various offerings and someone jumps right in front of your line of vision. Maybe they have poor vision but don't they know that they are obstructing your view, isn't it obvious ?



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07 Jan 2011, 10:31 am

Using the fact that they look like they have Asperger syndrome as an excuse to act like a gobshite :arrow:



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07 Jan 2011, 10:35 am

Insisting that they're listening to what you're saying, when they clearly switched off as soon as you opened your mouth



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07 Jan 2011, 10:46 am

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7. How average people are supposedly better than the mentally challenged and intelligent people. You know what I mean? Either you're too dumb or too smart to be liked by them. Tell me I'm not the only person who feels this way.

Expecting people to read social cues, and expect us to know what they are thinking without them having to tell us.

They keep sexism alive and well, by expecting everybody to conform to gender roles.


Failure to respect personal space!



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07 Jan 2011, 11:19 am

wow, aspie for 3 weeks and youve already jumped on the NT bashing bandwagon 8O that was fast.


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07 Jan 2011, 11:51 am

azurecrayon wrote:
wow, aspie for 3 weeks and youve already jumped on the NT bashing bandwagon 8O that was fast.


Indeed, though he has spent quite a bit of time bashing on AS traits as well.



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07 Jan 2011, 12:28 pm

azurecrayon wrote:
wow, aspie for 3 weeks and youve already jumped on the NT bashing bandwagon 8O that was fast.



Letting off some steam. Its not bashing but more stating what frustrates you. They can't help it just like those with A/S cannot help being what they are.

If you can't do it here and if there isn't anyone that you can relate to here then what's the point ! !

What's with the bashing of me ?



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07 Jan 2011, 12:37 pm

pensieve wrote:
7. How average people are supposedly better than the mentally challenged and intelligent people. You know what I mean? Either you're too dumb or too smart to be liked by them. Tell me I'm not the only person who feels this way.
Heh. :lol: You're definitely not because I seem to have spent my entire life being pushed into one corner or the other.


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07 Jan 2011, 12:41 pm

The "hive mind" approach, where everyone plays the same little social games to no useful purpose whatever.
Anyone else buzzing along outside the hive is automatically excluded.


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07 Jan 2011, 1:10 pm

<sarcasm>

I hate it how they form little cliques, slap superficial lables on anyone who's different, and then stand around judging and making fun of others.

Oh, wait a minute......

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