Why do aspies 'lose it' sometimes?

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As a kid, sometimes I'd go into violent rages. I'd bite, kick, scream, hit, etc. But why? I felt out of control the routine of life just bored me immensely I think. i wanted to escape. what do you think?

What you describe is a meltdown. I'm not good at explaining things but someone who is will probably answer your question shortly.

cool movie, I was the same as a kid and similar thoughts on life then.

as for the why....

it's like that game where you pull the sticks out of the thing and it's holding the marbles, and you pull out the wrong one and the marbles come down- maybe that's where they get "lost his marbles"

Not enough behavior modification??

i can lose it quite violently to the point of thinking to commit serious violent crime, however i have my wife to stop me. Unfortunately however if i was alone and had no one i think i would do a 'spree'.

My anger includes alot from school throwing chairs around in class room to putting the gas tap on in school to punching a car window with 3 members of someone else's family to wanting to blow the car up etc, i can be very extreme. It's normally when either i dint know whats happening or when i feel people are against me or my family is at threat.

Punching or beating someone is not enough justice for me

I don't go into violent rages but I get to the point I can't think. It's surprises and the unexpected that does it to me. The other day I needed my key code and I didn't have it written in my notebook. I had absolutely everything written but the keycode and the necessary random password. I couldn't believe my luck! I also couldn't believe I had to go to so much trouble to get the keycode, it wasn't lingering on any equipment. I thought why couldn't it be simpler? It's because I like to get things done quickly and on my own. I want everything right there where I can find it easily and do things myself.
So, I was frustrated at having to do it differently. It did get done and that's all that matters, anyway.
I don't like being surprised, like when someone needs to do something and I have everything planned out in my mind only I can't do it because the plans have been altered not because of me.
I also don't like to go places I dread going.
All these things can cause me to short circuit a little...

Considering how people treated me, I dont think my violent rages were intense enough. I'm known to well for being laid back even in the worse of situations.

I shout out than getting violent. Rarely do I hit or throw things because it's rare when I get pushed that far. Then other times I feel I just shut down by giving up and walking away from it. I often feel I want it to stop and then I lose it when it doesn't stop.

I am really laid back in the most intense of situations, if there was an earthquake it wundt bother me lol i don't know why!

I would rather not be violent and get stressed it can make me ill. I don't normally lose it when in a very calm situation i do if someone looks at my wife though but normally it's just feeling of wanting to do things such as a person who may look at my wife in a pub, i wanted to smash a class over the person's head

its part of the Aspie nature.

I don't inflict any physical harm. I shut down and cry instead. A lot of that has to do with my sensitive nature. Oh, well. I'm not going to act tough and stoic becuase NTs expect me to.

thats very wise comment. i dint think of it like that, reacting they only making us look bad

Hmm I almost never feel angry. Does this disqualify me as an aspie? I don't have much of a temper and have never been more violent than slamming the door. I prefer to keep my head cool and calm.

I'm pretty articulate, though and enjoy arguments with people. I think losing it easily is usually associated with inability to express yourself well. My husband who's NT seems to "lose it" quite easily. He's usually quiet and not good with words.

Mine all goes inwards. If I'm wound up enough to the point of being really angry then I can barely speak anyway, and being able to act out something physical isn't too far behind either.
I have slammed a door or two in rage though, but that was long ago now.

I'd like to offer a theory: It has to do with control over the environment. Aspies have a strong need for a fixed environment that they can understand. So if someone is leaving things in the wrong place or leaving dirty things around the place then they get very angry. I don't get this too much but have lived with people who screwed up the environment in extreme ways and it made me constantly unhappy and angry at them. I held it in but it didn't really help matters. I live with only one person now in a flatshare and he's always out meaning I get a nice easy-to-control environment.