Were you badly bullied by non-family-members?

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The poll is about being abused by peers (e.g. schoolmates), groups (e.g. gangs of neighbours) and institutions (e.g. school, medics). I encourage everyone who takes part in the poll to post with more information, particularly if they select "other".

I do not want to define "badly bullied", as that is up to the victim to determine, and I know feelings can stay on much longer than memories of how many episodes there were or what acts were carried out.

I define childhood as 0-14, adolescence as 15-21, adulthood 22 and beyond.

During childhood, I was spurned and laughed at by colleagues whenever I sought their acceptance, ridiculed in front of the class by a few teachers; a few scumbags once tripped me outside of school, one stole my pen-case (but was found out), others mugged me once and others, when I was really young, got me to play a "game" that involved them torturing me, ostensibly to see if I was tough enough to hold out for long. During summer camp, a group of children threw a water balloon at me. I did fight back, or at least tried to, in many cases.

During adolescence, I was spurned and laughed at by my colleagues whenever I sought their acceptance (notice a pattern?), though some of them "tolerated me". Two of them even threw things at me on one occasion each. Another one strangled me once, at the request of his girlfriend. I think it was really bad in the 9th grade, but became better as soon as they could see me fight back. There were a number of people who were indifferent to me throughout.

During adulthood, apart from being spurned and laughed at by most of the people whose acceptance I sought, I experienced more serious abuse from university lecturers and administrative staff. This has not yet been thoroughly concluded, but I have in the meantime learned that abuse is widespread in universities - which some people with Asperger's might have mistakenly seen as a haven.

I don't think most of this (apart from the bullying by university lecturers) was as bad as my family environment.

I've endured lifetimes of bullying

Bullying is torture. But when adults bully they can be especially destructive because their taunts can have real effects if the bully (or plural) is in a position of power and influence. Further, bullying can become contagious if left unchecked and why it's so toxic. Bullying can evolve into slander and character assassination.

Down with bullies. I'm so very sorry, primaloath - - I know that profound hurt. Still, I frequently have nightmares about being bullied. I've taken the full brunt; worse when I do tell, which is the right thing to do, and my distress is ignored. Bullying can be a lethal form of assault. And it can be ignored! Like a criminal verbal hit-and-run. Makes me cry just thinking about it........I was assaulted by a neuro/psych professional. Another sexually stalked me.

In school I have been eaten up, spit on, taunted, and at one time had my shirt set on fire while I was sitting in studyhall. I have also been bullied in front of teachers who sometimes thought it was funny. It all stopped when I got out of special education and had a growth spurt and became bigger than the bullies.

I also was bullied when I worked at this resteraunt but that was mostly name calling. They knew I could not hit them without getting fired so they took advantage of me needing that job. I ended up spitting in the bullies unattended food and drinks. I aslo set aside 20 rotten chicken wings that went bad so I could serve them to two of my bullies. They ate the bad wings and got a bad case of diarrhea so I got one day of peace from them not being there because they were at home speckling the toilet where they belong. I kept trying to find other work but I would foul up the interview or would not even get a reply to my resume so I was stuck there.

I have been bullied throughout my entire life. I am not even in school anymore and I get bullied online as well. I can't escape it. Middle school was absolute hell. By the way I am now 27.

I've been bullied for my whole life. I've been given a bloody nose, had an egg thrown in my face, and my glasses demolished all in junior high. Senior high was a rape attempt, threats, and my senior class campaigning me to commit suicide. Verbally, I've been called everything in the book. It's why I prefer to spend my time alone.

I'm 28 years old and I've been bullied all my life.

In childhood it was mostly classmates, kids in the neighborhood or my brother and his friends. They kept teasing me, making fun of me, harassing me, humiliating me, excluding me and there were some minor assaults. I had things thrown at me, milk poured over my head, name-calling, beating, being tricked and used and publicly humiliated etc.

It continued in high school, but the harassment and assaults become more common and more serious. In almost every break bullies would take my stuff and run away with it, throw things at me, kick me knees in, try to trip me over, punch me etc.

When I went to college, the peer bullying almost stopped. My classmates and the college staff seemed more mature than in high school. During my college years I encountered little peer bullying.

After college I went to university and the bullying started again. One of the professors initiated the bullying and the class and other students followed suit. I changed majors and the bullying decreased. After the first school year I dropped out.

In adulthood I've repeatedly been the target of bullies. I've been bullied in some workplaces. My current workplace has been the worst so far in terms of bullying, but changing jobs is just not an option at the moment. There was a period when the bullying got really bad, but there is less of it now, partly because I changed departments and started avoiding/ignoring the biggest bullies. In adulthood I've also been bullied by various other people, like my mother-in-law and relatives. In adulthood the bullying has nearly always been emotional or "reputational" rather than physical. People have spread lies about me, excluded me a lot (and made a lot of effort to make it very clear to me that they were excluding me and including everyone else), mocked or ridiculed me in front of others and gotten me fired by stealing the credit for my work and lying about me and my performance when it was time to lay off some of the staff (the boss later found out the truth about my performance when the department became pretty much unfunctional after I left, so I was offered my job back, but the bullies kept their jobs).

i 'll say that i share most of the experiences of others here. i could not escape even at my various 'homes' due to family members delivering more pain than other humans i encountered.

as a small child i was able to avoid some beatings by joining the housing project street gang. that, of course, created a whole new set of problems, but at least i wasn't bleeding so much. hahahahahahahahhaha.

in 9-12 grades, i just didn't go to school. missed at least 1/3 of the school days, maybe more. just wanted to graduate so i could join the military. at 17 and in basic training, i felt safe for the first time in my life.

it even happens on wrong planet. on another forum, i had someone make fun of the way i was abused as a child.

i'm sorry that it happened, but on some level i understand why eric and dylan went berserk.

Bullying stopped for me after I got into middle school. Now I'm a senior, and I can't imagine being bullied anymore. However, I am not treated with as much respect as there in my grade, and I am frequently excluded from parties and activities. I was the only one of my friends not invited to one of my graduating friends graduation party. I am also frequently taken advantage of sexually.

Bullying was quite often throughout elementary school, intensified in middle school, and halfway through high school just kind of stopped. Being an upper-classman seems to give you some respect... or they just leave you alone. It's too late to make friends at that point, it's near the end of high school and you won't see many of them again. So boo.

I almost drowned, because some bastard led me to the deep end of the pool knowing I couldn't swim yet. Reliving that moment is almost traumatic, I have no idea how I learned to move beyond that when I was a kid, learning how to swim anyways.

Some physical bullying here and there, and being on the football team, it was pretty much 100% guaranteed to happen. Verbal and emotional bullying, though, much more often - I've been called everything, put down in every way, and shut away in ever way. Almost every way possible, in that sense. And people wonder why I have low self-esteem, ha.

Yes, childhood in school and neighbourhood. My employment ended after particularly savage bullying that resulted in depression, C-PTSD and hospitalization. Bullied by neighbours where I live. I must have the word "Target" tattooed on my forehead, or something.

I think everyone would be bullied at some point. I'm NT, get along well with people, can defend myself physically and verbally, and have no characteristics that attract bullies - and yet they still tried it on at school. I felt sorry for the kids that got bullied badly.

I got bullied at work once, mindgames and verbal stuff, I fantasised about throwing this guy out a 3rd floor window, and was having trouble sleeping I was so angry. But I always put on a chilled out demenour, and responded to the insults with a smile. That musta really got to him, I hope so!
Anyway it turns out he had major depression and stress problems that meant he had to retire. I like to think I had a little hand in that.

I used to be bullied until


A.) I took up bodybuilding


B.) Became a 185 monster.



Now, I just make people uncomfortable. Like before they would come up and confront me....


However, now since I look very scary....ya

I've been bullied my whole life. It still upsets me and I won't say I don't care. I think I have grown stronger though. I've got a deeply embedded sense of self-worth now, that's taken me a lifetime to build. I realise people love me and for a reason.

my bullying was mostly in family. my mother was all kinds of abusive and my older sister was pretty physically abusive when we were kids. my eldest sister has been more emotionally abusive, in our adult lives, though i don't know that she means to be. i think our childhoods just did a number on us.

i was never physically picked on as a child but then i was totally the type to report any incident. if i was ever really verbally bullied as a child, by a non-family, i cant say i noticed. the worse i got was being teased about my name for a few weeks in third grade. i've always had a fairly reserved demeanor so i don't think i make a good target. bullies like to get a reaction.

i can only remember one instance where a girl in my class tried to make fun of me for being .. developed. lol, it didn't turn out well for her. flat-chested girls aren't likely to get away with that kind of thing once you've hit puberty and even back then i did have a terribly scathing tongue.

The most painful part of bullying, regardless of its form, is when the people who are supposed to protect and care don't understand or believe it's happening.
At age 9 my primary school principal hit me for lying about a boy who spat on me as I left school, I was also hit because I was scared and retaliated by throwing gravel at him. The boy got off scotfree and I had to make a formal apology to him. So when he and his mates knocked me down and held me on the ground and ran over me with their bikes in the school playground as I was leaving school a few weeks later I didn't tell anyone, not even my parents.
I had to learn to just live with it or be labelled a liar, attention seeker and punished for it.
Now, as an adult being bullied, I get labelled an antagonist, boat rocker, not a team player, feminist, psycho, ice queen, black widow, etc, etc. Lost a lot of jobs because of bullying, predominantly from men.

I was horribly bullied by other kids and told it was my fault, I am still told it was my fault. My teachers were bullied and the neighbors allowed their kids to tease me about my special intrests and when I told on them I was told I should take it as a joke or that people like to be teases (WTF?) they supposedly were born again Christians too.