What impression do people have of you?

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What do they think of you

People's first impression of me is always that I'm shy.

some really cool comments

from a homeless guy. He curses one night at the homeless shelter as I'm prepairing to wait for the bus in the cold. He says " May God, Damn (context, God's curse), all those there who aren't Christlike" (However True Christians would take perscutions up the chute, and ask for more, but after a life time of pain... Then he looks at me and says "except him, he's nice!". It snowed baddly that night, soon after he stormed off (presumably to the Center of Hope, or to find some warm shelter somewhere). Apparently he was trying to take a shower and was harassed by other guests that night, ANY fighting regardless of instigator means expulsion from the Mustard Seed of Calgary. :_( for that man's case.

-You may not have a strong head, but you have a good heart.

-You're a Good Alien. From my brother's ex girlfriend, who nicknamed me "Spacey Casey".
-What's wrong with your head? a Muslim co worker when I was having a very crappy clumsy bad luck day. (I'm very very streaky like the Calgary Flames lol).

Quiet, off-beat, cute, gamer-chick. good musician?
I've never had the guts to ask....

Everybody has their own opinion. I have been called lots of things before; ugly, beautiful, snobby, stuck-up, intelligent, nice, a b***h, loud, quiet, weird, crazy, naive, ridiculous...the list goes on, of course.

Personally I know that I am not a snob or stuck-up, and I have no idea why anybody would think I was. Girls in my old school who used to bully me called me these things quite a lot, both to my face and behind my back. It always left me feeling pretty bewildered!

As for things like 'loud' or 'quiet', it depends where I am and who I am with etc, so different people think different things about that.

In regards to being weird or crazy, I have been called this almost affectionately by some of my friends who seem to think I am sort of odd but love me anyway. On the other hand, I have been called a freak and accused of being crazy by other people, and they definitely meant that to hurt me.

Oh, and in my old school, which was a high school only for girls, there were a couple of years when most of the year used to apparently think I was a lesbian. They would constantly question me about it and make homophobic comments both in front of me and behind my back. That was also pretty odd. I'm not a lesbian (not that there is any problem with being one).

No one has said to me what they thought of me, only to my Mum.

"He's a lovely quiet lad."

I think it's all over the place. The internet gives me a chance to make a good first impression, but I can still be really awkward face to face the first time (and the second, and the third, sometimes) although I do a bit better when I get to know someone and can just relax, I've still had people suggest things like I was a bit much, or too serious, or that I was angry with or hated them.

With people who are online, I've had one person tell me he liked me for being so kind, and that I care about people so much. But since I've been working hard to communicate these things for the past three years, I am glad to see that I succeeded at that.

I went to a social gathering in July, and I am sure I successfully put a lot of people off on account of them not being very interested in talking to me the next time I went. One actually did suggest (but didn't say outright) that my reactions the first time were off-putting and off the mark the first time around.

I don't really have a good sense of impressions people have of me, though. Because of the first internet impression, I do think it's easier to have a more positive experience in real life and that people do forgive me some of my faux pas that, had I not known them online, I am sure would have been the end of everything with them right there.

I make a hideously bad first impression but after people get to know me, they like me better.

Usually I hear from mutual friends, that newly-met people think I'm very different or even scary, but they can't explain it. It's not that I'm a 6' tall bodybuilder that scares them; it's something with my personality or my eyes, according to most. People think I'm reasonably intelligent, as I use decent grammar and I'm polite. I also have a fairly good education, and I enjoy discussing technical and/or political subjects. Some people are fascinated by me, and want to know more. But others (typically those in the "in crowd" or who consider themselves among the elite & popular, will keep me isolated from their friends.

Before I was married, girls though I was cute, and were often very interested "until I spoke". That was the end, in most cases, LOL... I didn't understand why at age 17 or so, a prospective date wouldn't be interested in how many air raid sirens had been installed in Los Angeles between 1957 and 1980, or why there was a terrible fight between CBS and RCA over whose color TV broadcast system would get approved by the FCC in 1953.

Charles

Innocent, green, unworldly, gentle, Mick Avory-like, weirdo, sad, slow and cute.

I used to be treated as if I were of subnormal intelligence. People would explain things very carefully and if I made a mistake, scold me like a child. Neighbors who had known me for decades would exhibit shock if, for some reason, they were faced with my actual age. Now that I am a graybeard, this is hard to sustain, but a new problem has arisen: since I'm unclassifiable, I must not be there.

Actually, in the past few years my stepfather has taken to treating me like I'm stupid. He constantly singles me out to explain the obvious and lectures me about humor, and gets angry if I don't see something that he believes is in plain sight.

My mother "gets" me to a surprising degree, to the point that she can explain my mannerisms to other people. That seemed kind of odd at the time it came up, but now, hmm.

Also, everyone I know calls me "encyclopedic" or "an encyclopedia."

People tell me that I'm very kind and that they can tell that I love my mom a lot. They also say that I'm very intelligent. People can also tell that I know a lot about movies.

From the comments I get, people often think I'm fat, ugly, and intellectually disabled.

Once they know me, one or more of those might change.

Naive, innocent, child like, rude, self centered, loyal, nice, sweet, ret*d, stupid, weird, very smart, wise, funny, slow, and some people also think I don't like them.