How did you meet your significant other?

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I have been married for about 18 years. I have no plans on divorcing. Still, I would like to know how people on the spectrum met their significant other. Please tell us the story about how you met your partner.

I met my partner via work.

David was one of the most attractive guys in the place so was eye candy for a while, he ended up falling into the 1% group of people I could actually easily talk to. I was dating his friend for some time so we talked a fair bit then, even when the friend turned out to be a jerk David and I stayed friendly.

At work we always tried to sit together, we would play fight and I'd tickle him, we used to pass notes, and grab each others feet under the desks - constantly trying to touch each other as much as possible, lol. It developed into a sickly obvious situation where everyone could see we were into each other - kind of a problem as the friend of his started telling people I had cheated on him with David, but David being very sociable made sure to protect me from gossip.

I refused to date him at first as he's five years younger than me, but he kept on at me until eventually I agreed to have him as a boyfriend. All very childish, we're paying for it now with the realities of adulthood; poverty, bills, trying to get a house, etc.

Blind date.

ruveyn

I'd met her many times before through mutual acquaintances. We have lived on the same street for 18 years without really noticing each other. Also she is a few years older then I. After one particular night where I caught a lift back with her from a party, we ended up hanging out into the small hours of the morning drinking beers and talking about stuff 1 on 1 for the first time. Two weeks later or so and we were together, though we never asked each other out.. it just sort of happened naturally I guess.

*sheepish look*

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DON'T laugh!! ~

I was married before to the Army, and grew up with the military, it's huge in my family. I was reading an Army forum on there, and one guy posted something I liked. So I sent a message stating just that. I had no other intentions beyond a casual exchange and conversation. 5 years later...........

I met my husband online. I went on an adult forum and made a thread asking if there is anyone in the area who wants to hang out. My husband PMed me and we started chatting on IM. We chatted for three weeks and then we finally met on my 22nd birthday at Starbucks. He bought me a drink and we walked around downtown before I had to head to work.

As weeks went by, he kept seeing me on the weekends. I wasn't even looking for a relationship then but I fell in love with his personality and he accepted me for who I was so far. Within a month, we were in a relationship. Then we got an apartment together that October and moved in. I decided on a two bedroom for in case we broke up because I wasn't sure if he stay with me so that way he have a room of his own to sleep in. We still live in the same apartment and we got married in 2009 nearly two years after we had met and the spare bedroom is now our baby's room.

I've been married 21 years. I worked at a Military Bowling Center. My wife was a customer there. We had our reception at the Bowling Center. In general I think military people seem more accepting of differences in people; at least that it the way it was in those days. They were very kind to us and treated us like family, despite our differences. Most of them were retired military people. And yes, I was often the brunt of jokes, but for the most part not in a bullying or offensive way.

I met my husband at a dance class.

There have been a few:

1. A mutual friend told me she'd seen me acting in a play and thought me attractive, which gave me the courage to pay her an impromptu visit and set up a date (she wasn't on the phone).
2. Postal dating agency.
3. Met at a party, we went for a walk round the grounds and I kissed her.
4. She worked at the same hospital as I did, we became friends and started going back to each other's houses together.
5. She came to live in the shared house I lived in, and wouldn't leave me alone.
6. She got a job in my workplace and kept making eyes at me.
7. Another workmate.
8. Became friends when she visited us on the "Working Weekends On Organic Farms" scheme, and I started going to her place in another city.
9. Answered an ad in a newspaper lonely hearts column.
10. Ditto.
11. Postal dating agency.

3, 6 and 11 became wives. 1 and 2 only lasted a few weeks. 4, 5, 8, 9 and 10 lasted longer and were fairly significant. 7 was long-lived but not all that significant.

In a club at the end of 1992. I went out there on my own in the week between Christmas and New Year because I hadn't seen or spoken to anyone in days and I was bored. Was quite happily minding my own business with a drink until this group of young women approached me wanting to know if I was ok. The rest, as they say, is history.

With the sole exception of XP-3 and I-1, how do I meet ANYBODY?

In class - fellow student, or one of my students - or as colleague.

Mw wife was once student. Somehow special, but no action - one does not go romantic on one's students.

Years later, going through a bad stretch, consolidating available friends - visited her. Talked nonstop for 9 hours or so. Drove off. A week later drove back, after running up huge phonde bill, and there you have it.

Through a mutual friend.

I met my husband online. It was one of those things where I just wanted someone to talk to and have a relationship with without actually having to commit to a real physical relationship if you know what I mean. I found my husband who lived in England and thought "perfect! No need for commitment here!" Two years later and I'm living with him in England....

A friend introduced us. From there we ended up taking the same ju jitsu class, and we became friends with benefits. A few years later we moved in together and ended up getting married.

How do two people meet where both of them are actually attracted to each other? This seems like such a foreign concept to me.

I was married for a while. In my high school, I was part of a large social circle in a private boarding school that we joked was the largest group of social outcasts around. We were the computer geeks and the gamers as one socially awkward collective that clicked amongst ourselves quite well.

I had never heard of autism much less Asperger's at the time and have only recently become aware of it and as I have said in other posts I have not yet managed to get a shrink to call me back to even have the discussion about whether or not I have it, though it is plainly obvious that I do from everything I have learned, read, and been told recently.

In any case, the woman I married was another student in that large social circle. She had approached me for help with her email over the summer holiday as a way to break the ice with me, and in our lengthy summer-long exchange I taught her Morse code (as .s and -s), which I had taught myself in elementary school out of a wartime-era Encyclopedia Britannica. When I arrived back on campus in the fall, my first day back saw a very long email from her entirely in Morse code telling me that we should go out.

More than ten years later she came to terms with her sexuality and some months later moved out and now lives with another woman many years my junior.

Everyone since then, including my current girlfriend, I have met on dating sites. I use very long, in depth profiles and weed out people that way who cannot keep up with my mind, which never shuts off and does not allow me to sleep. Most of the girls I have been on more than one date with have had careers involving the care of Autistic people to some extent or another, so I suppose my tendencies attract them?

My current girlfriend, who I have been with only a week, is also divorced and her husband was Asperger's so she's quite used to the effects and we get along very well.