MidlifeAspie wrote:
Kiran wrote:
One of the biggest misconceptions about autism is that we can not feel compation for other people. It is because most people think empathy=compation/sympati. And usually we suck at empathy. But empathy means ability to, for exempel, read body language and facial expression. It is also a misconception that sociopaths cannot feel empathy, they are usually exalent at reading people and that's why they are so good manipulators. But they cannot feel compation.
Empathy is not defined as feeling the same as another (that’s codependency), but rather the ability to hear what another is saying and to tell them that you heard.
Actually, technically that's "mirroring." Empathy actually does involve feeling, or at least identifying with the feelings of others. It is the ability to articulate that fact, and/or "vicarious experience" (or ~ basically the same as "feeling the same as another") of the emotions, attitudes or attitudes of another.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/empathy
In the AS criteria for AS, what is mentioned is "emotional reciprocity." It's been debated here on WP whether that's the same thing. Some disagree that it is.
I feel it's the same, or at least closely enough related, which explains why the term empathy is so often used in relation to AS.
The actual term "Empathy," however, isn't in the AS criteria of DSM-IV.
The phraseology is "lack of social or emotional reciprocity."
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