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20 Jan 2019, 12:07 pm

If I don't have kids, don't have a partner and have autism, am I depriving my grandparents of being great grandparents?



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20 Jan 2019, 12:09 pm

imdoneone wrote:
If I don't have kids, don't have a partner and have autism, am I depriving my grandparents of being great grandparents?


Only in the sense that not buying them a Ferrari denies them a Ferrari.



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20 Jan 2019, 12:11 pm

imdoneone wrote:
If I don't have kids, don't have a partner and have autism, am I depriving my grandparents of being great grandparents?
No.



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20 Jan 2019, 2:17 pm

Daniel89 wrote:
Only in the sense that not buying them a Ferrari denies them a Ferrari.


Ha, Zing!

Nice invocation of that analogy.



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21 Jan 2019, 5:52 am

imdoneone wrote:
If I don't have kids, don't have a partner and have autism, am I depriving my grandparents of being great grandparents?


Well if you're their only grandchild then it's obvious that if you never get kids, they never get great grandkids. That's a fact, but it's nothing to feel quilty about. It's your life and your body, so if you don't want children, don't go trying to make them. If you want them but can't have them because you can't get a partner who'd agree to have children with you (or you can't have them for some other reason), then your grandparents better keep their mouths shut because the fact that you don't have children most likely hurts you even more than it hurts them. No one has the duty to "continue the family line", that's an old fashioned, disgusting idea and any parent who thinks their child owes them grandchildren never deserved to be a parent in the first place. Wishing for grandchildren and dropping hints about it is one thing, but putting pressure on someone to have kids is another entirely. When it comes to these kinds of things, don't listen to anyone else but yourself (and your partner if you have one/will have on in the future since having children has to be a shared decision.)



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21 Jan 2019, 6:07 am

Yeah. Well, I have a large family.



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21 Jan 2019, 6:12 am

Just tell them you have kids and when they say you don't tell them they have dementia.



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21 Jan 2019, 9:43 am

I’m 58 with no kids.

My brother has two adult kids.

I should be a grampa by now.

I have slight regrets. But I just live my life.



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21 Jan 2019, 9:45 am

Are your grandparents going to help raise your children?



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21 Jan 2019, 9:50 am

My AS mother only had kids to satisfy her parents. She had two, but no grandkids. I never saw favourable conditions for a child, so I had none, without regret.



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22 Jan 2019, 12:10 am

The solar system contains plenty of unwanted children

A neuroscience instructor said that the human brain has 90 percent same dna was watermelon

Yes you are denying your grandparents great grandchildren, :roll: if you are the only grandchild.

But that is not hurting anyone

It is not, the more people alive, for the longest amount of time, the better


Besides even if you had children, they are not guaranteed to be healthy or anything like that