Help - I'm completely isolated, lonely and depressed

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Because of the upcoming 'mid-term' holidays I can't even get the limited interaction with people at college. I live alone, no family, and no real friends (no one that I could possibly meet on a daily basis, anyway). The default for me seems to be 'loneliness', and I think I can only take so much. Last summer was infernal... three entire months with nearly no one to talk to (I only have regular appointments like with my counsellor). People generally suggest volunteering, but that's as crazy as the job market atm in my opinion... and I cannot possibly spend hours every day flagellating myself (filling in forms) only to have a 100% failure rate. Yes, it's that bad. I bet winning the lottery would be easier, but it's a pity that not even money could keep me company.

The ironic thing is that when college begins again (which I've already faltered in, I mainly go for the company right now) I'll be so broken after all this time on my own that I'll be even further away from reaping the benefits of being with some people once again. Not to mention that I'd absolutely not be able to function in a proper college course... the last thing I want to do in this week+ of isolation is write some 3000-word essay. That's only reserved for slightly happier people.

*hugs*

There's always people online, or you could try talking with strangers.

You can try social networking sites and try to find friends in your area that way.

Yeah, online isn't bad if that's all that can had at the time. When I was in a really isolating situation years ago, and was going nuts from it, sometimes I'd go to a coffee shop or cafe and read or draw or something. The mere presence of other people around seemed to help a little.

That's really hard being isolated like that.

I feel the same as you. Online stuff doesn't help much because 1. I find it very hard to integrate into online communities 2. hearing about other people having friends further depresses me and 3. there is something about having a person physically there that can't be replicated online.

Somedays (many days), I feel like the loneliness is eating me alive. I do live with my farmily, but it's just my mom and brother who are gone most of the time and I don't really get along with my mom. Volunteering is fine for most people, but when you know you are socially awkward such things make me really anxious.

Feel better my friend. Remember "life is just a ride in the amusement park of the universe" -Bill Hicks

Don't get scared.

I have family and two friends who I talk to often, but I am often lonely. I haven't been out with friends since 2007. I feel like I'm missing out, even though I have my interest.

I am in a similar situation, but I live with my mom to help her out, but the lonliness is painful expecially when she is not feeling well which is often.

I know online talking is not the same as having people around, but if you want someone to talk to just pm me. I am on this site at least once a day.

It helps curb the lonliness for me to a degree.

take care,

Jojo

I simply go to a coffeeshop or something. I don't talk to people but being around them is sort a nice compromise between being around people and being by myself. In fact, sometimes I go there to BE alone, since I live with my girlfriend.

You can even be a regular and at least get a smile from a waitress who recognizes you or something. It helps.

I understand how you feel. I'm not completely alone, but I do feel lonely often, and I know it's very hard to meet people or even have someone to talk to if you don't already have some connection that allows you to establish further connections. Feel free to PM me if you want someone to talk to online.

Hi mootoo.
one thing I find that helps with being lonely and not brave socially, is that I go to the pool and swim laps.

This is an activity that everyone is doing together, which doesn't demand interaction: the focus is on the activity rather than the social.

After a while I noticed that most people swim at regular times. So gradually I get to know the people who swim at the same time as me.

Furthermore, different times of day (for example, 6am vs 4pm), feature swimmers with different lifestyles and attitudes (eg. serious workers 6am, family groups 4pm), so I can choose what sort of company I will have in the pool by this method.

*Awkward aspie hug
Sorry your feeling down, feel free to PM me.