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Does any other Aspie girls have a serious problem falling for guys that seriously take advantage of you?

The night before last probably had to be one of the worst nights of my life.

Yes. Although not anymore. I found a guy who doesn't do this. But he's the first one.

Are you okay?

Does any other Aspie girls have a serious problem falling for guys that seriously take advantage of you?

I'm pretty sure many neurotypical girls have this problem. Many.

^ true.

but it takes me a long time to realise i'm being treated badly.
some NT girls can tell straight away.

Yes, just very angry. This guy(who I've had a past with and fell for his crap again) said i was stalking him and almost had his boss call the police and the workers there laughing at me calling me crazy. I though he was my friend so I was staying at the restaurant he works at reading and eating pie until my friend could come and get me. Well my phone went dead and I had no way of getting in touch with my friend, so she(the boss) kicked me out...at night...with no ride in a place were I'm not from.

Yes, this has happened to me many times but not so much anymore since I'm older. I sorry this happened to you and I hope you're doing alright as well.

ick, that's not nice.

i combat it now by not trusting anyone until they've earnt it, saves a lot of heartache.

Yes, just very angry. This guy(who I've had a past with and fell for his crap again) said i was stalking him and almost had his boss call the police and the workers there laughing at me calling me crazy. I though he was my friend so I was staying at the restaurant he works at reading and eating pie until my friend could come and get me. Well my phone went dead and I had no way of getting in touch with my friend, so she(the boss) kicked me out...at night...with no ride in a place were I'm not from.

Yes, but it's with girls instead (cuz I am gay). I keep falling for people I know are really screwed-up. I have this desire to want to fix them and help them and all they wanna do in return is use me to feel better about themselves.

Basically the same(but with guys). I was absolutely terrified, and I basically have people calling me psychotic now...we he's the one who lead me on. I was completely humilliated.

I'm usually like that, but he knew exactly what buttons to push, I guess. He's the type of guy who will initiated stuff, then turn it around against you, to make himself look better.

oh i know guys like that.
knew, once.
now i only keep 2 people in my life and i'd trust them with it.

one ex boyfriend loved to do that, he'd buy me clothes and tell me they'd make me look beautiful then when i'd wear them he'd call me a slut for wearing such slu*ty clothes - which he'd bought for me in the first place! bleh.

It takes a while to find a decent guy; at least in my case. I won't tell you girls how long, because I don't want to discourage you. But most of the time I was avoiding guys, because of how badly the last one had hurt me. The one I am with now is a gem. I wish the same for all of you.

Last edited by hartzofspace on 28 Feb 2011, 12:58 pm, edited 1 time in total.

BTW, here's an article that will help with identifying what is good in a relationship.
http://www.ehow.com/how_4474183_healthy ... nship.html

That would be me

You're probably really nice, and guys like that target the nice people because they will accomodate their selfishness, because they are nice.

I was told to look for what you wouldn't necessarily look for. I married an aspie, I'm very happy with him. I am very accomodating of his aspiness, but he's wonderful

Thank you for the article. I bookmarked it.



I've heard that a lot, even when i'm mad or taking up for myself people don't take me seriously, because i'm usually really nice. Like with this guy, I tried to take up for myself(after he called me a f**king crazy), and he laughed. Pissed off would be an understatement with me.