Oh stop it, it's not loud. Stop being a baby.

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High Pitch noises, screaming babies, screaming children, fire drills, fire alarms, noisy kids chattering in the cafeteria, refusing to keep their voices down, drills. It's earsplitting to me and not them. It ANNOYS me that other people claim that it's not loud, when it's very loud to me.

When will people understand?

I'm pretty sure they won't... People, in general, are quite bad a sympathizing with experiences they themselves do not have. Ironic.

I've learned to not grab my head when the sound is cleaving my skull in two - I fold my tragus into my ear canal with one finger. If the sound is continuous, I just need to get out of there.

Little foam earplugs will save your life. Buy them and use them whenever you are in a crowded place. They are cheap and nobody even has to see them so they cannot annoy anyone. You can still hear people talking to you just fine...

This is a "world" full of people who do not mind and even like noise. So we have to figure out how to cope and adjust in most situations not the other way around.

When they learn not to act as if someone else's experiance is exactly like theirs. Only in a perfect world, right?

Also, HOW RUDE to call you a baby over something that drives you insane!?

Last edited by LiendaBalla on 28 Mar 2011, 9:51 am, edited 1 time in total.

Good question...unfortunately I don't have an answer. I despise loud sounds myself, so I understand where you are coming from. Had the misfortune of shopping at an electronic store over the weekend. Seems like those who love loud sounds blast anything they can, & then leave the area with speakers maxed out at top volume. Had to personally seek out & turn down the offending noises. It's so not cool.

I also work with a kid who plays music on his iPhone (with earbuds in place) so loud that I can hear the hissing coming from his ears. Now our office is not a quiet place. There's music playing on the radio, people talking to each other (sometimes from across the room), phones ringing, my headset beeping in my ear with the most annoying tone, etc. Now if I can hear hissing coming out of my co-workers earbuds, it's too loud. Personally, if he wants to go deaf that's on him, but I cannot handle any extra noise especially something that is just as irritating to me as my headset. It's all I can do to keep from bolting out the door or have a meltdown. I also don't care if he is offended because I can hear his noise, & tell him to turn it down. He can't seem to understand that I can hear hissing from across the room. My best advice is to clutch your ears/head with the best grimace you can make.

Unfortunately true. The world isn't going to change for us.
It is rude to call you a baby though.

I have dealt with the headphone thing as well. It's the worst, because I can't get any work done so long as I am hearing it. The same thing happens when people are having conversations around me. I tried wearing headphones myself, without playing any music since that would defeat the purpose, but they didn't help. The only worry I have with ear plugs is people sneaking up on me and startling me, which happens anyway when I'm focused on something, and I hate it. My solution is working from home and avoiding overwhelming situations entirely, but I know not everyone has that option.

I do this too sometimes and it helps immensely. It makes it much easier to go with my friends to some of the loud places they like to go. I don't like the foam ones though because they hurt my ears and make everything sound a little too muffled. I actually bought a pair of special earplugs designed for musicians, and they were much more comfortable, basically just lowering the volume.

People will never understand.

People do not understand because they probably don't know about sensory issues and because they got used to it, they expect you to get used to it too. Because it doesn't bother them, they don't think it should bother you.

But is'nt that people have something called empathy. So this empathy should help them understand
even though they might not be bothered by the problem themselves.

People's capacity for empathy is in general overrated.

Once I asked my husband, "Would you ever hit me?"
He responded, sounding offended and shocked that I would ask that, "Of course not."
"Well, when you yell, it hurts my ears, which hurts my head. It's not uncomfortable. It's painful. Like a sharp pain that stabs through my head. It can cause a migraine that I can't get rid of for hours." I paused to look at his concerned face for a moment and then continued, "So when you yell, it's like you punched me in the face. If you would never hit me because you know that's wrong, you need to stop yelling."

He's not yelled since.

He even got into an argument with his father because we were all walking and his father saw somebody and hollered really loud right next to my ear. I dropped to the ground. His father didn't know, mind you, but I think that would've been inconsiderate and rude to have done to anyone.

Two of my kids also have auditory sensitivity. We have a pleasantly quiet house for having four kids.

When I read a thread like this it's so affirming. Just to have the confirmation, after all these years, that it wasn't just me being deliberately difficult.

The upside of this sensitivity is that I find some sounds utterly sublime, and music can transport me in ways that I don't see happening in many others.

It's not your fault, you are not being difficult. That is a profound discovery.

Yes and yes! Nothing in life touches me as immediately and as deeply as music does.

Little foam earplugs make my ears hurt.

I have to do that too. I really don't understand why people can't be more considerate about that sort of thing. Surely, it's annoying to a lot of people, not just Aspies, isn't it?

The other thing about electronics stores are those alarms that they have connected to merchandise. Some are so sensitive that they go off as soon as you touch anything. The sales people are so tired of resetting them, that they take forever to reset them.